Your forgiveness of someone that has wronged you, no matter what the wrong may have been, is not dependent on how you feel about the situation, or the person involved.
It is something to be done out of obedience.
It is all about how GOD feels, not you, He said to pray, He said to forgive.
Why would God require this of us, knowing we are emotional creatures, controlled by our feelings, passions?
There is what is called the many fold purpose of God.
In this circumstance, a two fold purpose, for our praying in a forgiveness type of situation.

# 1.) We were given the power to forgive sins, in the Lords prayer.

Matt. 6:12,14,15
12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

Luke 11:4
4 And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive every one that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.

Then again, Jesus Himself gave this power of forgiveness to us, by the indwelling of the Holy Ghost.

Matt. 18:18
18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.

John 20:21-23
21 Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father hath sent me, even so send I you.
22 And when he had said this, he breathed on them, and saith unto them, Receive ye the Holy Ghost:
23 Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained.

Matt. 18:23-35
23 Therefore is the kingdom of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants. 24 And when he had begun to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousand talents.
25 But forasmuch as he had not to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made.
26 The servant therefore fell down, and worshiped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
27 Then the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt.
28 But the same servant went out, and found one of his fellowservants, which owed him an hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.
29 And his fellowservant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
30 And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.
31 So when his fellowservants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.
32 Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me:
33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
34 And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. 35 So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.

From these verses, you can see, “we” have the power to forgive or not. But the teaching is to always forgive.

Mat 18:21,22
21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.


Forgiveness is not an act of the intellect, it is a condition of the heart.
But in most cases, forgiveness needs to be intellectually understood and carried out, until the act of forgiving becomes a condition of the heart.
People say, I wish I could be more like Jesus, this is our chance.
Pick up your cross and follow Him, the cross is a sign of death, we must die to our will, in order for the Will of God, to be accomplished in our lives.
When Jesus was in the garden, He prayed.

Mat 26:39
And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.

This prayer tells us, in His flesh, He did not want to go through with the crucifixion, but submitting Himself to the Will of the Father, He died for us.
This is the point where we can be like Jesus.
The sin that required forgiveness, “we” committed against God.
Jesus does not ask us to do something, He did not do Himself.
God Himself came to earth, in order to forgive the sins, of the sinner.

We need to pray your own Gethsemane prayer, letting God know exactly how hurt, angry, and desirous for vengeance we feel for the wrong that has been done to us, but in the end we need to do the same as Jesus did, submit to the Will of God, it is for our benefit that we do so.

When we declare, we have put on Christ, we need to be fully aware of all that declaration entails.

Rom. 8:29
For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.

Rom. 12:2
And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

It says “you have been predestined” that means “you “HAVE BEEN” conformed”.
When we have been wronged by people, God is dealing with “US”, not them, God is trying to teach “US” the full meaning of forgiveness, God is taking “US” to a higher plane of understanding.
Only by forgiveness, can the healing of the wound suffered take place.
Call it a test of God if you want to, but if you fail this test, by holding on to the pain, hurt, anger, and feelings of vengeance, you will have to take the test over again, because we are told to forgive.
Look at it as though Jesus came to earth to die only for “your” sins, because we have to be conscious of “our” part in His death. Each one of us in turn will have to come to the realization that “we” crucified the Lord Jesus.

2) When we decide “not” to forgive, this then is what happens to “US”.

12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

25 Agree with thine adversary quickly, whiles thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison.
26 Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing.

This whole thing means, when we (Retain) someone’s sins, instead of (Forgiving) them, “we” will be bringing them to God, on the day of judgement as their (Accuser).
Because they have unforgiven sins against them, you then become responsible for this unforgiven sin.
You then, would have unforgiven sins against you also, as per. (Matt. 6:12,14,15).
But during your remaining life here on earth, seeing that you have not been reconciled, by the act of forgiveness, the Adversary (SATAN) will deliver you to the judge, because you have determined not to forgive. “YOU” have therefore become the judge. Thereby sentencing yourself to a prison.

1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

Your judgment has been, (PRISON) your sentence meant for another has turned unto you. This therefore denies you access to God, carried out to the last.
You will only feel what you feel, as long as you want to feel it, your the one that has put yourself into prison.

Pharaoh determined the sentence, what he meant for evil turned unto him, and all of Egypt.

Exodus 10:28,29
28 And Pharaoh said unto him, Get thee from me, take heed to thyself, see my face no more; for in that day thou seest my face thou shalt die.
29 And Moses said, Thou hast spoken well, I will see thy face again no more.

Exodus 11:4,5
4 And Moses said, Thus saith the LORD, About midnight will I go out into the midst of Egypt:
5 And all the firstborn in the land of Egypt shall die, from the firstborn of Pharaoh that sitteth upon his throne, even unto the firstborn of the maidservant that is behind the mill; and all the firstborn of beasts.

Egypt is A “Type” of our life in the Flesh (sin), through the forgiveness of Jesus we have become Freed from the FLESH, our Egypt. We have left the realm of the flesh, and entered into the realm Of the Kingdom of God, we are now alive to the Spirit.

Rom 8:4,5
4 That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
5 For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit.

Sin would be “not” forgiving, for that is the will of God.
Remember that forgiving is forgetting, when you forgive, God CAN then help you forget.

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