Need some help

I used to be a devout believer in Christ. I always had my ups and downs really though. I dont feel that my faith is strong. When things go wrong my faith goes down, and that leads to a life of sin. I want to get back on track, but im at a time of my life where I need God, need him to help me with things that are coming up in my life, but I feel that I dont want to go back to God because I need something.

What do YOU think?



  1. alethesia dipsos says:

    My brother, I have been where you are. As was mentioned by another, the prodigal returned with similar feelings, he only wanted to WORK for his father but seeing his son a long way off (he had been waiting) he killed the fatted calf, put a ring on his finger and rejoiced.
    Don’t ever be afraid to accept God’s mercy.

    Also, Paul – who was a man chosen by Christ himself, who had faith beyond what I can imagine (but hope to obtain) struggled himself. Remember Romans chapter 7, my brother:
    Paul says:
    “For what I want to do, I do not do but what I hate, this I do.”
    He goes on to say:
    “What a wretched man I am, who will rescue me from this body of death?

    One last thing:
    In Mark it tells of a man who wishes for his child to be made well from demonic influence (not the direction I am going, don’t worry) anyway, this man asked Jesus for help and said, “if you can do anything, please take pity on us and help us” Jesus responded, “if You can? All things are possible to him who believes”
    The boys father immediately said, “I do believe, help my unbelief”
    I have always marveled at the honesty in that plea, “I do believe, help my unbelief” I have prayed that prayer many times.
    Keep strong brother and God bless.

  2. anonymous-em says:

    Hi john1212.
    I might present a bit of a counterpoint here – I mean no offence, but I hope to broaden the discussion slightly. I have a similar point to “livingmiracle”.

    Perhaps the problem is not to do with your faith, but more to do with a conflict between what you “want” to be and what you think you “should” be.

    Christiantiy is, as far as I can understand, a way of life. It’s not simply a thought pattern. You can’t become a christian simply by saying so, you have to be “taught”.

    So it might be the case that you have been “taught” to be a christian, but you don’t “want” to be one. The question that you might need to consider more deeply is , what is it that keeps you from “straying” – and is it really “bad”? If your god really did create you, and he really is all-loving, then he will accept you more if you are honest to yourself – i.e. his creation.

    I’m not going to ask what kinds of sins you think you are comitting, but I’ll assume that in the grand scheme of things ,they are benign (i.e. you’re not engaging in murder or peadophilia!). A god that created you can hardly be angry if you are true to his creation – a living, thinking, individual human. If god wanted to you to be a duplicate of his doctrine, then he could easily have created a planet of clones. He has not. Clearly.

    If you WERE created, you were created as a NEW individual. In the entire history of the universe, there will NEVER be anyone quite like you. God knows this of course, and I can’t for the life of me imagine how an all-loving, caring god would in any way incriminate or punish you for using freely the mind he created for you. If you life your life too worried of what may be, then you will never be all that you can.

    Your god, if he exists, will always be there. He won’t judge you for testing the waters on your own, or trying to think laterally. Indeed, I suggest he may well WANT you to strike out on your own. If you get into trouble, or you feel lost, then I am certain your god will easily nourish you with the comfort you need, whenever you need it.
    Getting up off your knees does not mean you can never kneel again – and it means you can explore far more of the world far more quickly, and further.

  3. Lily -N-Valley says:

    Hi! I hope this finds you feeling better. I understand your guilt and shame. Most of us have done and been where you are.
    Here is the thing God is pulling you back to Him or else you would not be feeling as you are. God is willing & wanting to wipe away all of your inquities. Let Him & ask Him to help you to always remember the old man is dead. You’re a new creation in Christ. Ask God to put the desire in your heart to do His will and only His will.
    The mind is a battlefield and its unlike any war we’ve ever saw fought on t.v. or read about in our history , except for the Bible. Satan is tinkering with your mind.
    It’s a honor to be chosen by God and its a previlige to be called His child.
    God knew every mistake you were going to make before you were ever born and He still chose you. Jesus said ‘NO ONE COMES TO FATHER EXCEPT THROUGH ME. ‘ ‘MY SHEEP KNOW MY VOICE.’
    Romans 8:29 For whom He did foreknow, He also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of His Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
    Galatians 1:15 But when God, who set me apart from birth and called me by his grace, was pleased.

    Ephesians 1:5 He predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will–

    2 Thessalonians 2:14 He called you to this through our gospel, that you might share in the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ.

    1 Corinthians 1:9 God, who has called you into fellowship with his Son Jesus Christ.
    Romans 11:29 for God’s gifts and his call are irrevocable our Lord, is faithful.

    We all stumble and fall but we do not stay down. We can’t we must get back up and try again. The fact that you are ashamed and feel guilty shows you are starting to mature. You feel sorrow for letting Christ down. Which means you are ripe for repentance. If you had a child who disobeyed you and was ashamed for their actions. Would you want them to keep feeling that way and carrying their never ending burden that only you could heal them of? No, you would want them to come to you. So you could heal them. Go to God and let Him heal you.
    Time is running out. Jesus is coming back soon. The air is electrified with the signs of the time. It’s like watching pieces of a puzzle come together. There is no denying it and the only ones who could must be the ones who don’t know Christ’s voice. Would you want to miss Christ’s return? Even if we have to go through the tribulation would you want to without knowing Jesus is waiting on you with His hand outstretched ? Or is readying Himself for His return to get You?
    We’re only on this earth for a lifetime and what makes a lifetime varies for each person. But its still only a lifetime. We have no promise of a next breath. When it’s over on this earth for us. Our eternities have only just begun. Bottom line we get 2 choices where we are going to spend eternity : Heaven or Hell.
    I tell you again we will either spend an eternity in Heaven or Hell, not a lifetime but an eternity. With each denial to return to God and get forgiveness. You are choosing hell for all eternity. God is not going to allow sin into enter into His beautiful kingdom of Heaven.
    You feel you aren’t worthy? You feel you are using God? None of us are worthy, but we strive to be Christ like. As far as using God , well what about Christ? He died for you, He was beat, spit on, crowned with thorns forced to carry His own cross to Calvary and then nailed to it. So that you and I and everyone else could be in Heaven with Him. He didn’t have to do this, God didn’t have to send His only son to die for us but He did. Because He loved us, us His spoiled creation. Christ didn’t have to go to Calvary but He did and it pained Him. He cried tears of blood because He knew how awful it was going to be. BUT HE STILL WENT THE ONLY SINLESS PERSON TO LIVE, HE WAS PERFECT. He chose to die for us. We owe Him, we can’t let His death be in vain. We can never repay Him for what He did. The best we can do is live our lives for Him and when our lives are over, spend eternity with Him singing praises to Him. Because my friend I tell you, He is worthy. We aren’t but He is and that makes the difference. If you cannot go to God for yourself then go because Jesus is worthy.
    Whatever you chose remember you’ll have all eternity to think about it. You can do it in paradise singing praises to our Heavenly Father or you can think about in hell burning forever. The choice is yours. God is by far too much of a gentleman to ever force you to choose Him and Christ. But I assure you They are worth it.
    I tell you again there is nothing you have done that surprised God. He already knew and He still chose you. That doesn’t give you or me or anyone else a license to sin purposely anymore but it does give us comfort in knowing He knows me and He still loves me and wants me.

    • thank you for the kind words. I am using the words that God gave you to make a difference in my life and try to change my life for the better

      • Lily -N-Valley says:

        Remember you are never alone. Never.
        Unseen They may be but Christ sticks closer than a brother and God said He would never forsake or leave you. Therefore, talk to Them like you would your best friend (with respect) or a beloved well respected, admired, family member. It might feel strange at first but remember They’re always with you. (Always have been.) You’ll find yourself over time building a a true relationship with Them. It will be more than viewing God as the proverbial make a wish foundation. You’ll come to know Them. When you don’t feel you have anythingto say to Them, then sit and bask in their Holiness quietly. Have you ever had a good friend that you could be around and never say a word but feel it was the best visit and conversation you’d ever had?
        Sing praise and worship songs to Them. That my friend will lift you up into a different realm. It will also give you strength. God desires our praises. (Theres lots of great worship songs, Our God is an Awesome God, Word of God Speak)
        God’s promises us in His word, If you’ll abide in Me, I’ll abide in you.
        A relationship with us and our love is what God & Christ want from us. Eventually you’ll learn to recognize that still small voice….
        You’re relationship with the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit is the most important relationship you will ever have in your life. Because when our lives are over that is what it all comes down too. Not who we worked for, what we drove,who we married, or was the parent too.None of that will matter because we will stand alone before God.
        Oh and when you feel the desire to sin, remember you are the host of true pure Holy guests. Don’t worry as time goes by sinning will become repulsive to you, because why would you ever want to offend Them?
        May God richly bless you.

  4. John,
    forgive me for asking this, but how did you become a Christian?
    I think you missed something right there!

    • born in a Christian home, always believe that Jesus was my savior

      • faithishearing says:

        Welcome to the site. It is great that you were born in a christian home, a lot of people don’t have that privilege, but it doesn’t say much about your relationship with Christ. A relationship with Christ cannot be inherited. Have you made a personal decision to follow Him?
        John 3:3-8
        Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.”

        “How can someone be born when they are old?” Nicodemus asked. “Surely they cannot enter a second time into their mother’s womb to be born!”

        Jesus answered, “Very truly I tell you, no one can enter the kingdom of God unless they are born of water and the Spirit. Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit. You should not be surprised at my saying, ‘You must be born again.’ The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.”

        Flesh can only give birth to flesh, that is why Christianity cannot be something you are born into. ‘But the Spirit gives birth to spirit’. You need to be born of the Spirit. This rebirth Christ is talking about is not something you simply learn and accept, it is an experience.
        John 3 talks more about the born-again experience. I would encourage you to read it and seek God and prayer, and honestly inquire if you truly received Christ as Savior, and experienced what this chapter describes. It is never too late to come (or return) to God no matter what happened before.

        John 6:37
        All that the Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.
        Jeremiah 29:13
        You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

        • yes it definatly is a privilege to be born in a Christian home, but thats is not the reason I believe that Jesus is my savior. When i was young i questioned a lot about my church and my faith, and later grew stronger in Christ. But all my life I have struggled with ups and downs in my relationship. It would be great for a while, lost for months, and back to great.

      • I don’t mean to offend in anyway, but what I was asking is why you became devout Christian in the first place. That will help me understand the really issue you are struggling with

  5. lookinforacity says:

    Hi John

    When you say
    “but I feel that I don’t want to go back to God because I need something.”

    That is a lie of Satan, that lie keeps you from the only source of LOVE you have in this entire world, He is your Father, go tell daddy you need some help.
    Mat 11:28
    Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
    As long as you believe this lie Satan keeps telling you, you will feel alone, helpless, defeated, and that your life is useless.
    God on the other hand says.

    2Co 12:9
    My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.


    You say
    “I used to be a devout believer in Christ.”

    Did you fall away when you were in the condition you are in right now?
    Or did you fall away when you were on top of the world, feeling good about yourself?

    I speak Blessing into your life, Victory into your upcoming situation, and Peace to your soul AMEN.


    • thank you for the kind words. I fell when I had everything going for me, and I felt that I did not need God. Then when I needed him I was upset that I stopped praying, stopped reading when I didnt need him. It really is an ongoing battle, going on for years.

  6. Timothy Luke says:

    The prodigal son went back for what HE needed…. and you know how God responded! If you cannot go bacxk for yourslef then go to Him to make amends so he will be blessed, just as the Father had great joy! In any case GO BACK TO THE FATHER… and stay there this time – then you won't need to go back again! smiley

  7. thanks for your help, it just it hard when you failed so many times in trying to change yourself. And now trying to change yourself because you now need something.

    • Hi John, our God is a very forgiving Father, it doesn’t matter what you have done-he only sees for who you are. I know how it is like to want to change but something keeps pulling you in the other direction, that something is SATAN-he doesn’t want you to have a relationship with God but if you seek God’s help He will sure come through for you. And what I found helpful was letting go of the people from my past and surrounding myself with loving and caring christian friends. It may be hard letting go of your old mates but sometimes it is the only way if you really want to change because they may be the hinderance that is stopping you from having a relationship with God. Go before the Lord as you are and ask Him to forgive you.
      If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land (2Chronicles 7:14) God is willing to forgive you, and all you need to do is ask and he will forgive and heal you. He will give you a new beggining if you continue to seek Him in prayer and through His word. Don’t hide yourself from Him because of your sins, God forgives all sin.
      Sometimes, when God wants to have a relationship with you He places you on shaky ground so that you seek Him and surrender your life to Him.So if things are falling apart in your life, Its His way of drawing you close to Him.
      I will be praying for you.

    • SETAPART4GOD says:

      John 1212,Jesus is right in your life,so dont trust in yourself,Trust in Jesus who died for your sins and will present you without spot or wrinkle.Years ago when i was a youth pastor and i was having those up and down experiences,I was in the church praying with such a brokeness and Gods presence was everywhere,it was getting late and God said to me why are you still here?I said i did not want to leave the peace i have in your presence.He said then take it with you and take it with me i did,Praise God!!!

  8. LivingMiracle says:

    I am also like you. But keep in mind that God is an understanding God. His love for us is beyond us. His forgiveness is limitless. His mercy, always there. We on the other hand ar humans, imperfect. God knows this. He created us. So do not feel bad about reconnecting spiritually only when you need it. As long as you find it in your heart to ask forgiveness and seek refuge in Him. It is a sign that YOU need GOD, that only in God can you find the peace, contentment and answers that you were always uncertain of. Have faith that God will always be there for you and He will work his mysyterious ways. Reconnect! Go’d’s doors will never be closed.

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im a 34 year old male in need of some prayer im married with 3 kids and as of tonight i just relized how far off i am with my walk with god .About 3 years ago we moved to a new town found a church started going my wife become involed with childrens church vbs etc things were going good money wise tithing like suposse to but it was all a lie from my stand point. i didnt like going i hated every sunday going there and would find resons not to go and begin talking her from going every sunday to when it was her time to teach . I began to drink heavily everyday was lets just say a bad husband and father always arguing with wife in front of kids to point of wanting to leave and me or her saying we hated being married to each other in front of kids . well we were living paycheck to pay check not having enough money to pay bills not because we didnt make enough but because we would spend it first then worry bout how to pay them back almost lost our house at 1 pointe but borrowed money to save it . I knew why this was happening but didnt wont to admit it i had lost my way with god and family .we quit church all together well about 4 months ago my wife was invited to a new church by her friend we went that sunday they really wanted to go i could have cared less because i fig i had failed as a husband and a dad .i went anyway and come to find out i really enjoyed it we started going reg things were getting better when im sure the devil didnt like it and made me belive everything would be ok again so i convinced my self and my family that it was ok to skip a few sundays we would be fine went back drinking again looking at things on tv and internet i shouldnt well just tonight we got a letter from a attorney who is going to start foreclosure again . well i got this very sick filling in my heart i know that this is the devil at work but i cant seem to shake it here it is christmas and i got this to deal with went outside my house and prayed to god to help with my situation and to help me become better christian and husband and father to my kids cause really im at the point of just walking away from everyone and starting over myself .I know prayer works because i didnt mention this yet but when i was 21 i was diagnosed with luekimia i almost died in the hospital .you here people say they saw a ligjt well i tell you the truth i saw the bright light and i was screaning for help i remeber it was like a hollow tube i was in screaming and was like no 1 could here me .Well when i recoverd my mother told me my blood presure was 10/20 dont remeber my heart rate just know it was very low she said she called all her friends and they had a all night prayer for me well here i am today 11 years out cancer free > i know prayer works i just cant figure out how to keep the devil away .so please pray for me and my situation thanks

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