From The Holy Spirit and Christian Testimonies by C. Marie, www.theholyspiritacts.com
“Evelyn Jane” assumed that she would end up being alone, lonely, and unmarried if she continued her abstinence lifestyle.
1 Corinthians 7:2, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.”
Proverbs 3:5-8, “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.”
So “Evelyn Jane” became curious and wanted to obtain firsthand knowledge of what she was taught to avoid from The Word of God.
2 Peter 1:20-21, “Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation. For the prophecy came not in old time by the will of man: but holy men of God spake as they were moved by the Holy Ghost.”
1 Thessalonians 4:3, “For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:”
“Evelyn Jane” eventually met “Theodore,” who was a charming gentleman. In her response, she pushed the Lord aside and made “Theodore” out to be more than he needed to have been. So while she placed her worth and identity in the man’s hands, she hoped that she would win his heart and become his bride someday.
As the years passed by, “Evelyn Jane” was confronted with a routine that pertained to what was observed in the lives of many different couples. People met each other, fell in-love, became engaged, and gotten married. Then they became each others’ permanent, lifelong dating partners, as they also created families together, and celebrated numerous wedding anniversaries over time. On the other hand, she was still with “Theodore,” happily birthed his children, but had never been a married woman before. Because she was born in wedlock, she despised that her children we not.
It had gotten to where “Evelyn Jane” regularly spent Valentine’s Days, her birthdays, and the anniversary date of the day when she first met “Theodore” in great disappointments. During each of those special occasions for her, she always expected him to propose marriage to her. But as the years passed by, her expectations were repeatedly crashed and burned, which kept her heartbroken. She wore herself out after she continuously looked forward to those days, yet, anticipated their next significant occasions.
“Evelyn Jane” constantly examined herself in order to find any flaws and faults on her. But each time she had done such, one at a time, everything about her contributed to the excuses as to why she believed that “Theodore” had a lack of interest in marriage to her. It became customary for her to interrogate him about whatever reasons supposedly led him to become turned off from the permanent higher level for their relationship.
“Evelyn Jane” held her patience, but over time, she felt that her identity as “Theodore’s” long time girlfriend had worn itself out, especially as their household grew over the years that went by. While she believed that she dealt with the same issues that married couples went through, she felt that her relationship appeared as an imitation of what she wanted. She knew that the girlfriend status should have been expired some years prior. After a while, she gained to view such title as if it identified her as one who had been rejected and insulted by him, as nobody took their relationship seriously. She believed that their relationship was not secured and resultant to that, she did not feel comfortable enough to let her guard down, because she did not have the guarantee that he was a permanent person in the lives of her and her children.
So “Evelyn Jane” remained very frustrated, felt dishonored by “Theodore,”and stayed publicly humiliated. There were also times when people counseled her about some scriptures from The Holy Bible that related to her.
1 Corinthians 6:9-20, “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our
God. All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Meats for the belly, and the belly for meats: but God shall destroy both it and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body. And God hath both raised up the Lord, and will also raise up us by his own power. Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
“Theodore” remained content about the relationship that he had with “Evelyn Jane,” and he was not able to imagine a separation from her and their family. But in spite of his satisfaction, she had moments when she desired to take their children to leave him, and her status to him behind. Back then, her inner peace was incomplete and her conscience often ate at her, the more she studied the scriptures and tried to grow in the Christian faith.
Ephesians 5:1-17, “Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. Be not ye therefore partakers with them. For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light: (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;) Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord. And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them. For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret. But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light. Redeeming the time, because the days are evil. Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.”
As “Evelyn Jane” believed that she earned her way into “Theodore’s” heart, in a manner that he would have wanted to have her as his wife, her self-identity and self-esteem suffered drastically. For some time, she became uncomfortable when in his presence, as she ultimately assumed that he had completely fallen out-of-love with her and did not find her as somebody who he would want to spend the rest of his life with.
Then the day came when “Evelyn Jane” realized that she was not unique nor an exception to what God had knowingly commanded. She tried for years to justify her lifestyle and claim that because she had all of “Theodore’s” children, had not been with any other male after she first met him, and due to how she wanted to be with him, then her stance in the matter was excusable in the eyes of God. But the more she studied The Word of God, the more she focused on Him, and less on why “Theodore” chosen to create a family with her, while avoiding marriage. From that, she gained enough recognition of the true circumstance, which led her to sincerely become repentant. So she stayed with “Theodore” but discontinued her sin of choice.
For a long while, “Evelyn Jane” felt as if she was stuck between a hard place and a rock. Although she believed that “Theodore” dangled her on a string, she acknowledged that her abstinence might drive him away and further into the arms of other people, as she always believed that their were. But after all the time she been with him, she believed that he would have married her within thirty days from her abstinence decision. While he never moved out of the home, for the few more years that continued to pass by, they were more like roommates who shared the same bed, home, children, food, and not much else. They both still claimed to have loved one another limitlessly, and to have been in boyfriend-girlfriend relationships with each other.
Philippians 3:7-9, “But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ. Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ, And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith:”
2 Corinthians 12:9-10, “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.”
1 Peter 1:6-9, “Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations: That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ: Whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory: Receiving the end of your faith, even the salvation of your souls.”
Evelyn Jane” spent years praying hard to God about the relationship that she had with “Theodore,” as children were involved and she been with him for many years.
Psalms 37:4-8, “Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. And he shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noonday. Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass. Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.”
St. Mark 11:22-25, “And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
Hebrews 10:35-39, “Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward. For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry. Now the just shall live by faith: but if any man draw back, my soul shall have no pleasure in him. But we are not of them who draw back unto perdition; but of them that believe to the
saving of the soul.”
Hebrews 11:1 and 3, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.”
2 Corinthians 4:16, “…but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day.”
“Evelyn Jane” went on a fast and prayers because she had some request to God about what she wanted in the relationship that she had with “Theodore.”
Romans 8:26-27, “Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.”
Psalms 127:1-2, “Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.”
Isaiah 58: 5-9, “: Is it such a fast that I have chosen? a day for a man to afflict his soul? is it to bow down his head as a bulrush, and to spread sackcloth and ashes under him? wilt thou call this a fast, and an acceptable day to the LORD? Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke? Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry, and that thou bring the poor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from thine own flesh? Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee; the glory of the LORD shall be thy rereward. Then shalt thou call, and the LORD shall answer; thou shalt cry, and he shall say, Here I am…”
Some time during the fast and prayer event, “Evelyn Jane” was balled up on the floor while she wailed to God. Then at one point, she sat on her knees, wiped her eyes, spread her arms out wide, and lifted her head up high. While she done that, she briefly had what she believed may had been a spiritual moment from the Holy Ghost.
Exodus 14:13-14, “And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will shew to you to day: The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace.”
2 Chronicles 20:3-4, 14-15, 17-18, and 30, “And Jehoshaphat feared, and set himself to seek the LORD, and proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah. And Judah gathered themselves together, to ask help of the LORD: even out of all the cities of Judah they came to seek the LORD. Then upon Jahaziel … came the Spirit of the LORD in the midst of the congregation; And he said, Hearken ye, all Judah, and ye inhabitants of Jerusalem, and thou king Jehoshaphat, Thus saith the LORD unto you, Be not afraid nor dismayed by reason of this great multitude; for the battle is not yours, but God’s. Ye shall not need to fight in this battle: set yourselves, stand ye still, and see the salvation of the LORD with you, O Judah and Jerusalem: fear not, nor be dismayed; to morrow go out against them: for the LORD will be with you. And Jehoshaphat bowed his head with his face to the ground: and all Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem fell before the LORD, worshipping the LORD. So the realm of Jehoshaphat was quiet: for his God gave him rest round about.”
Within that same season if not the next, “Theodore” married “Evelyn Jane.”
Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”