If you had a bad relationship with somebody it is best to follow these steps:
Usually there are faults on both sides in any relationship problem. One of the keys to being blessed by God in this area is humility. You may consider that the other person is 90% to blame, while your blame is only 10%. Nevertheless, you are not responsible for that person's attitudes and actions, only your own. There is the possibility you have misunderstood what they said and did. The more you humble yourself in this process the more you can expect God's blessing.
a. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you and lead you to a proper resolution of the problem.
b. The key to your emotional healing is forgiveness. Tell God that you forgive that person, whether they change or not. (Luke 23:34; Matthew 6:14,15; Mark 11:25; Matthew 18:35; Colossians 3:13). Keep on forgiving them as often as is necessary.
c. Ask God to show you where you needed to behave or respond differently in the relationship. Ask God to show you where your attitude is or was wrong.
d. Contact that person - ideally in person, but if time does not permit, by phone and/or by letter. If you have lost touch and still don't feel right about things, ask someone who might know the contact details of that person. Follow through diligently. (Matthew 5:23, 24).
e. Tell them that you are sorry for the way you acted in the relationship. Confess to them all the things you believe were not right on your part. Ask for forgiveness.
f. If you stole things from them, ask them what they would like from you as far as restoring those things and do what you can in the future to pay them what you owe them.
g. Give them an opportunity to confess their faults. If they don't, try to explain how their words and actions made you feel, and the way it seemed to you.
h. If they apologize, express your forgiveness to them. If they don't apologize, then be grac
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