What does a relationship with God look like?

The bible refers to God as our Abba Father – an intimate fatherly relationship. Unfortunately for many of us, a fatherly relationship creates a rather undesirable picture in our head based on our own relationship with our own father.

So what should a relationship with our heavenly Father look like? Is it an authoritative figure that invokes fear and trembling in a negative way? Do we feel guilty when we see him because we know we have fallen below his standards? Do we feel like we have to be prepared to tow his line first before we can have a relationship with Him? There are many questions to be answered.

I sometimes feel like I haven’t done enough to earn the listening ear and the blessings of my Abba Father. That wedge gets bigger as the devil uses it as a foothold. I sometimes feel like if I’m not ready for 100% perfection as a Christian, I might as well don’t bother. All the things people tell me I should do, I might fall short off… the fact is, my heart is sinful despite my good intentions and sometimes I struggle to come before my Father but yet when I sit and think about it enough and soak myself in His presence, I find that they are all lies. Lies that the devil has been planting in my head since the day I was born. Lies that inadvertently form the nature of all our relationships. We learn these lies through significant people in my life, through media and through incomplete or inaccurate teachings and emphasis in institutions. Essentially, we learn these through those who are also struggling with these same issues.

If I sit still enough in His presence and pour out my innermost thoughts and heart, I will know that He’s just waiting with open arms to hear me talk to Him even if it is about how inadequate I feel before Him. And even with all the grub I have on me, He’s not withholding His open arms. And even if I keep getting grub on me, He is patiently waiting and coaxing me along. He is gentle with me. He is long suffering and His mercies never come to an end. Because of that realisation, I will try to be like Him, not because I need to earn his love, but because of His great love towards me time and time again.

Right now, I just want to go and tell Him how scared I am and how I really feel about my life at the moment. I used to think He’s just going to tell me what I should do right, but you know what, I think He’s more magnanimous than that. I think His compassion for me will be His only agenda when I go to Him. What a relief…

Waiting to hear about your relationship with our Abba Father. What are some of the thoughts that come to your mind that prevent you from experiencing the presence of God in your life to the fullest.

Sara

What do YOU think?

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  1. @ Michael – thanks. I like it that Trust = Rest. God knows we don’t need more condemnation than we already cop in this world.

    @ Timothy – sometimes too much rationalization about our relationships makes it unspontaneous and too much theology involved, hence takes the raw emotions out of the picture and make us not real. Then we start coming tiptoeing to the father rather than running to him. Anyway, thanks for all your comments. Heard it all before and whilst it is important to know who our Father is and His character, it is afterall a relationship He first created us for. He is afterall more interested in us interacting with Him rather than not at all. If we start thinking first about the fact that we have to have all the right thinking first before we can have a relationship with our Father, then the devil has won in preventing us to reach the Father.

    @ Joshua – thanks for your honesty. To me that’s coming before God in spirit and in truth – truth about who we really are at this point in our life – in all authencity. It’s only then that God can work in and through us.

  2. God likes it when we are transparent, and also when we are trusting towards Him.

    We can be honest about the way we feel if we feel bad, but God wants us to conclude the matter with the attitude that, "Even if I don't understand what is going on, You are My God, and I trust in You."

    If we really connect with God the Father's love we will find that He is both very warm and gentle. He brings wholeness to our lives.

    He wants to build us up so we can grow.

    The main thing He is looking for is TRUST.

    When we trust God, we'll also be willing to give up our sins, because sins are things people do because they don't trust in God's goodness, wisdom, power or timing. If I doubt God is adequate to meet my needs – emotional or whatever, I might be tempted to do something wrong to try to meet them myself.

    • Timothy Luke says:

      Michael, Amen. It's all about TRUST. Isn't it funny how "Trust" sounds so much like "t'rest" or "to rest"?

      Man was made to rest from sin.

      1 John 4:18 says, "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love."

      The first thing the serpent had to do in the Garden of Eden was shatter the trust Adam and Eve had in God. They called God into question, and fear entered… "what if God really is trying to hide something from me?" "Maybe I need to know about good and evil for myself, so that I can take care of myself and family."

      Once man sinned, he was ruled by fear, not love. He hid from God and accused one another.

      Fear is the motivator of hell. Love is the motivator of heaven.

      Fear is the foundation of evil. Love is the foundation of good.

  3. Timothy Luke says:

    Great topic! It is sure to show us some things about each of    us! Here are a couple thoughts I have….

    You write:

    Do we feel like we have to be prepared to tow his line first before we can have a relationship with Him? There are many questions to be answered.

    We do need to be prepared to toe His line. God is the One who orders all things. By His Word the heavens were created and all things exist. They have order. God is a God of order. Relationships have an order that is ordained of God. He tells us how a debtor relates to a lender, how a husband relates to a wife, how a sister relates to a sister. How a ruler relates to a subject and a subject relates to a ruler. He tells us how we are to respond to one another in each of these relationships to successfully work together. Each area of relationship has its responsibilities and its priviledges.

    The relationship of 'father' is that of a loving authority. The Father has all authority, or right to make demands of his children. That authority is rooted and grounded in love. Whatever He demands of us is going to be rooted in love – that is what our 'faith' demands we believe.

    So, yes, we do need to be prepared to toe His line BEFORE we can have a relationship with Him. We have to recognize HE is GOD and we are NOT. We have to come to terms with the fact that HE has the right to dictate ALL THE TERMS. We also couple that with our confidence that His terms are right and just, and for our good overall.

    If we come to Him only recognizing He has the right to set all the terms, but not understanding His love, we can become the man who in fear hid his talent and in his fear of God, without love, did not obey. He lost his talent and in the end, his life.

    "We love God because He first loved us," tells us we need to love God, based on our ability to receive his love for us. It is our response to His love, that enables us to surrender all and "toe His line," as you put it.

    I think His compassion for me will be His only agenda when I go to Him.

    In His compassion, God will not allow sin to enter His Kingdom. God's righteousness cannot allow for sin, because sin does not allow for righteousness. Sin is set to destroy all that is good, and right, and just and fair and decent in life… so God has no choice but to fully and finally eliminate that cancer once and for all from the universe so that one day it will come to pass, "there shall be no more sorrow, nor sighing," and "no more tears" for "former things have passed away.

    In this, we will be judged…. If we embrace sin closely to the point we become one with it, we will be destroyed when it is destroyed. If we hold on to sin as Christians then we will be punished with stripes as the sin is removed from our lives we will have a spiritual 'operation' and the less sin, the better the chance we will survive it. If we judge ourselves, scripture says, we will not have need of being judged in that day. Let us judge therefore ourselves, and repent and be renewed each and every day… that we be not judged in the coming day of judgement.

    It is out of these truths that I relate to my Father, whom I love and admire and want to honor. I want His will to be done in my life. I want to be like Him when I grow up. I want to meet His standard because, after all, what else would I want to grow up to become???

    Timothy

    http://www.perfectinglove.com

  4. Joshuagm1991 says:

    Good question! I have to say this was really fun and eye opening to comment on because it feels like a flashlight just went on a lie in my life. Luckily I go to father regardless, but I do feel unworthy because of my debt. So I guess that’s something that might have been hindering me. My relationship feels like a father and infant/toddler. Lol.

  5. Joshuagm1991 says:

    Good question! I have to say this was really fun and eye opening to comment on because it feels like a flashlight just went on a lie in my life. Luckily I go to father regardless, but I do feel unworthy because of my debt. So I guess that’s something that might have been hindering me. My relationship feels like a father and infant/toddler. Lol.

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