“The Ordained Union”
From The Holy Spirit and Christian Testimonies by C. Marie, www.theholyspiritacts.com
Genesis 2:18 and 22-24, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
“Linda Dean” often questioned her spouse’s faithfulness to her.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11, “And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.”
“Linda” believed that she may have discovered solid proofs over the years to conclude that her spouse probably had other intimate relationships besides her. But she never physically caught him in the acts and he never admitted to any adultery.
Ephesians 5:21-33, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
Many times did “Linda” go back and forth with beliefs that her spouse never secretly done any serious disrespect against her and their marriage. But more than those were the thoughts that he definitely been with other women, sinfully.
Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: …”
1 Corinthians 7:3-6, “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.”
James 1:12-16, “Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him. Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: …Do not err, my beloved brethren.”
Throughout the years, “Linda” wanted her and her spouse to have their relationship mediated by a Christian at a church and a neutral marriage counselor.
1 Corinthians 6:1-3, “Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unjust, and not before the saints? Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters? Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life?”
Because “Linda’s” spouse never admitted to adultery and had always labeled their marriage as one that was good enough, they never went to counseling. She had days when she did not know what to expect out of her marriage. “Linda” knew that God was able to understand adultery and conflicts in relationships. She wanted His attention in the matter of whatever went on in her marriage, of what she knew and did not know, and if there was something unknown to her but what He was able to empathize with.
Jeremiah 3:20-23, “Surely as a wife treacherously departeth from her husband, so have ye dealt treacherously with me, … saith the LORD. A voice was heard upon the high places, weeping and supplications … for they have perverted their way, and they have forgotten the LORD their God. Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your backslidings. Behold, we come unto thee; for thou art the LORD our God.”
“Linda” wanted a good and secure marriage. There were days when she was not completely sure about the type of marriage that she had.
Proverbs 14:1, “Every wise woman buildeth her house: …”
2 Corinthians 5:7, “(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)”
St. Luke 17:5, “And the apostles said unto the Lord, Increase our faith. And the Lord said, If ye had faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye might say unto this sycamine tree, Be thou plucked up by the root, and be thou planted in the sea; and it should obey you.”
Romans 1:17, “For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith.”
“Linda” prayed for the Holy Spirit to place in her heart as to what she needed to do. Part of her prayers involved desires for Him to show her the choices that she needed to make and for them to be her only options, as well as the only doors opened for her to choose from.
James 1:5-8, “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”
“Linda” consistently reminded herself to “let go and let God,” “hang-in-there,” and to “be still” for Him to examine her marriage overall, to judge it, and handle it in ways that would bless her marriage, while givine Him honor.
Exodus 14:13-21, “And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, …The LORD shall fight for you, and ye shall hold your peace. And the LORD said unto Moses, Wherefore criest thou unto me? speak unto the children of Israel, that they go forward: But lift thou up thy rod, and stretch out thine hand over the sea, and divide it: and the children of Israel shall go on dry ground through the midst of the sea. And I, behold, I will harden the hearts of the Egyptians, and they shall follow them: and I will get me honour upon Pharaoh, and upon all his host, upon his chariots, and upon his horsemen. And the Egyptians shall know that I am the LORD, when I have gotten me honour upon Pharaoh, upon his chariots, and upon his horsemen. And the angel of God, which went before the camp of Israel, removed and went behind them; and the pillar of the cloud went from before their face, and stood behind them: And it came between the camp of the Egyptians and the camp of Israel; and it was a cloud and darkness to them, but it gave light by night to these: so that the one came not near the other all the night. And Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD caused the sea to go back by a strong east wind all that night, and made the sea dry land, and the waters were divided.”
Joshua 3:5, “And Joshua said unto the people, Sanctify yourselves: for to morrow the LORD will do wonders among you.”
“Linda” believed that as God gave Jesus the church and men were given their wives, because of how churches and marriages are ordained by God, the devil loves to try to defile all that have been sanctified. From that and how she felt in her marriage, she suspected that her relationship with her spouse had been successfully targeted and attacked by the devil, although she was not completely sure.
Ephesians 6:10-18, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;”
In “Linda’s” growth in the Christian faith, she knew that she was more of a threat to the devil than her spouse was. She acknowledged that the way for her to find success in what she wanted in her marriage, was for her to keep up her spiritual development in the Lord and to strengthen her faith in God. “Linda” wanted her marriage to always be about a bunch of hugs and kisses, while she and her spouse were to express their adorations and affections for one another over the years to come.
Colossians 3:17-19, “And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”
Proverbs 5:18, “Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.”
Ecclesiastes 9:9, “Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.”
“Linda” wanted her and her spouse to witness each other age gracefully, and to reminisce about their earlier years together, while they were to look forward to their blessed futures as a married couple still, and watch their family multiply.
Proverbs 11:16, “A gracious woman retaineth honour: …”
Proverbs 12:4, “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: …”
“Linda” knew that her spouse was certain about how she would always consider him to be “the man, her man,” and he identified her as a very faithful and trustworthy woman to him. If he was to become disabled, unable to provide for their household, lost their financial lifestyle for the worse, and had nothing else in the world to offer her besides his love, he knew that she would view and love him just the same. He also knew that she would stay on his arm, adapt to the situation, and try to make life comfortable for their family.
Proverbs 31:10-12, 21 and 26-31, “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”
Different times, “Linda” heard “wives, take good care of your husbands or else…,” “wives, tend to your husbands’ every marital need or else…,” “wives, look your very best or else …,”“wives, pay good attention to your husbands, especially when they are under a lot of stress and pressures, or else,..” Those were advises given to prevent husbands from becoming lust-filled, and ones to find reasons to justify adultery in marriages.
St. Matthew 5:27-28 “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
St. Mark 10:6-9 and 11-12, “But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.”
St. Matthew 5:31-32, “It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”
St. Matthew 19:9, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it
be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
“Linda” always asked to bring the Lord’s salvation to her whole household, and for God to strengthen her marriage. She also wanted to have the Holy Spirit to constantly work through her, and one of her desires was to draw her spouse closer to Him.
Acts 16:31, “And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.”
1 Peter 3:1-9, “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”
“Linda” was at some level of growth in faith to where she knew that she would be able to conquer whatever unwanted circumstances that she had, from the hands of the Holy Spirit, based upon the will of God.
St. Mark 11:22-25, “And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God. For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.”
“Linda” decided to get control of her marriage. She used the power of the Holy Spirit within her, and declared that her spouse and their blessed union would make her more of a happier wife, who came to trust him.
Hebrews 2:17-18, Wherefore in all things it behoved him to be made like unto his brethren, that he might be a merciful and faithful high priest in things pertaining to God, to make reconciliation for the sins of the people. For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted.”
“Linda” denounced demonic powers, devils, diseases, and other women to not trespass into her marriage, and had declared more peace in her union, if there were a genuine issue behind her back.
James 5:19-20, “Brethren, if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him;
Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul…, and shall hide a multitude of sins.”
Psalms 90:4, “For a thousand years in thy sight are but as yesterday when it is past, and as a watch in the night.”
2 Peter 3:8-9, “But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.”