From “The Holy Spirit and Christian Testimonies by C. Marie, www.theholyspiritacts.com
“Victoria Sands” belonged to a large family who raised their own households according to their personal specific preferences. They had little to no patience for people who did not meet the standards of what they declared to have been the overall worth of a person.
“Victoria’s” family greatly admired the male relatives’ obtained, masculine strength, skills, physique, and certain athletic abilities. “Victoria’s” family also regarded particular inborn features for the female relatives. The females had upbringings that were based upon the amount of certain inherent looks that were well-favored and preferred by them. One’s significance was based upon that. Beauty was based upon having minimal features that resembled one’s own ethnic background.
“Victoria” was an attractive female who had the features that were easily identifiable with her heritage. Because of that, she had little to none of the appearances that both sides of her immediate and extended relatives adored, preferred, and were conditioned to believe were of better quality.
James 2:1, “My brethren, have not the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory, with respect of persons.”
Proverbs 28:21, “To have respect of persons is not good: …”
“Victoria” was instantly disqualified from a lifetime of privileges from her family, as the other females were raised with more acceptance and respect. She was never paraded around as a prized trophy kin by any of her relatives. She was considered to have been unimportant and not good enough for much of anything, but for others to look at and declare that she was some body who they were better than. She neither received unconditional love nor positive relationships with any of her relatives.
From the eyes of some people, “less is more.” Having certain features and lacking other particular ones were viewed as being “Victoria’s” own handicap. It supposedly was to place a lifetime of limitations on her, in regards to respect, admiration, friendships, marriage, employment, and positive treatments.
Once “Victoria” reached an adult age, stress and depression made her body and emotions sick for a while. She willingly walked in sin back then. During those times, she had moments when she did not carry any forms of self-identifications on her, because she did not want to be identified by anybody, had anything unfortunate was to happen to her. But throughout those days, “Victoria” gave her thoughts to the Lord and her prayers to God at times. Because she wanted to be unconditionally accepted and loved, she regularly broke down, cried to God, and begged for His help.
“Victoria” had also asked God for a man who was to be good and compatible to her, and before long, she crossed path with one. He eventually publicized onto others about how much he thought highly of her, loved her, and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her.
Throughout the years, “Victoria” had some negative incidences when she ran into a number of males and females in her ethnic community, who had the “less is more” mindset. To them, ones value, attractiveness, and significance were based upon that, and they believed that their view was generalized. They had less, just as much, and more of her same features. They tried to hatefully tear her down, as part of their happiness was based upon emotionally hurting her and others like her, while warmly accepting individuals who had contrasting features that she and they had. As they offensively took their “less is more” mindset out on her, they carried themselves as if she had to live a life of being regretful and apologetic because of the features that she had, and the stereotypes that they and a portion of others had automatically placed on her, because of her looks. They were bothered and disturbed by her features, because hers were commonly associated with their shared ancestry.
“Victoria” and her husband shared the same ethnic background. He was aware of the negative incidences that she went through in her childhood, as well as the sporadic crude comments and treatments from others during her adulthood. As her emotional support system, he gave her comfort at times. He made her know that she was loved by him, whenever she was undervalued and disrespected by those who hated her inborn features and disliked her because of that. Outside of his own choices of words, he mainly informed her that on the contrary, whatever declared standards that she was confronted with, he saw her as a female who had a good heart and appealing features. He indentified her as one who was beautiful and worthy of being loved. He saw her as a woman who noticeably belonged in the ethnicity that she did, and although that was a problem for some, it was not for him.
“Victoria’s” husband had times when he basically expressed to her that not everybody thought negative of her and her features. She was also told by him that not every single man and woman rated her and others based upon the “less is more” viewpoint. Also, about how those who sought to emotionally hurt her, they did not speak for everybody, and not all men shared the same preferences. Outside of the “less is more” backlashes, there were many things about her that he was attracted to.
1 Peter 3:1 and 3-4, “… ye wives, …Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”
“Victoria” eventually altered how she felt about the negative images and identities that was thrown at her, while she identified herself as one who belonged to God.
Romans 8:14-18, “For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God. The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: …For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”
“Victoria” came to view herself as a beautiful woman in the Christian family, who constantly developed to the image of Jesus from within.
2 Corinthians 3:18, “But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”
Romans 12:1-3, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith.”
“Victoria’s” husband gave her a cotton-stuffed teddy bear one day. Before she saw the gift, she slept and dreamed of a very tall and lean, statue-like man, who was of a grayish-black color. He stood in the air and a little above of the ground, while he kept an enormous smile on his face and stared at her. Then an average size man stood in front of the other one, and every time she squint her eyes, a teddy bear appeared, and it was surrounded by a large heart shaped balloon, as both of those were in the air and in front of the average-sized man. Meanwhile, the tall man continued to watch her, and had never ceased to have the wide smile on his face. After she saw the items in front of the smaller man, she became so excited that she ran up to him, gave him a big kiss, and held him so tight that they both lost their balance. Before they were able to fall and hit the ground, the dream changed and she had found herself in a different location. Afterwards, she had repeated the whole scenario a few more times, but with different men that she held on to.
Once “Victoria” awakened from the dream, she immediately felt comforted from within. Later on that same day, she discovered that the gift from her husband was the exact same bear that was in her dream, and in its arms was a heart that had the words, “I Love You” written or sown on it.
“Victoria” believed that the dream was one from God, about how He and the Lord loved her. In her belief as well, the statue-like man represented God and the different smaller ones represented the Lord. Also, her responses to the smaller men had represented the magnitude of her development in the Lord, which she was to eventually achieve overall.
Ephesians 1:3-6, “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ: According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.”
Upon “Victoria’s” growth in the Christian faith, she sometimes continued to have moments when she thought about unwanted incidences that she experienced, when a child and during her adulthood meantime. But as she gotten over feeling victimized by others, those memories and thoughts led her to be further comforted because of how she gotten through her past problems. Those also led her to feel blessed that she was getting through her present issues by staying prayerful, while she walked in the Spirit of the Lord and tried to always strenghthen her faith in God. From hope and faith, she prayed to God at times, for Him to bless whomever He knew experienced and was experiencing unwanted incidences that she dealt with, and was dealing with during those moments, for whomever to get passed and through those issues too. Such repeated requests had further allowed her to find peace, contentment, and relief.
Ephesians 6:10-13, 16 and 18, “Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;”