Sexual Purity: The Need to be Free!

I just want to take a moment and share some thoughts that I have had recently in helping people overcome sexual sin.

When a man or woman is not walking in the light in the area of sexual purity, it becomes very easy for the devil to undermine them spiritually. We have callings on our life that are so much more precious than the evils of pornography, fantasy lust fueled by raunchy novels and sleazy soap operas. Yet, if the devil can tempt us in private and have us succumb to these temptations. I guarantee that you may be able to keep the sin hidden, but the price you pay will also be that you yourself will be hindered, hampered, or hidden yourself.

God needs a generation of believers who will walk in purity. He needs us to walk in the fulness of His power and grace. We cannot do that with a garment of shame smothering us. We cannot preach with clarity, if our own senses and thoughts are dulled by the aftermath of sin.

Do you want to be all you can be as a husband and father? You will need to put away the excuses and the sin from your life to do that.

Do you wish to be all God has created you to be as a wife and mother? Again, the sin will have to go! Secret sins are not as secret as we would like. “For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known and come abroad.” Luke 8:17

Can we hide our sin by going to church each week? Not really, “For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God? And if the righteous scarcely be saved, where shall the ungodly and the sinner appear?” 1 Peter 4:17.

The Good News is this: “For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged. But when we are judged, we are chastened of the Lord, that we should not be condemned with the world. 1Co 11:31-32.

Let us take a look at our hearts. Lets take our purity seriously. If God looks at the heart, what is he seeing in yours when no one else is around?

Are you struggling with sin in these areas? Find someone you can confide in and pray with. Post a prayer request here. We’ll pray for you and guide you as we can.

Have you been set free? Share your story with us, that the Lord would be magnified!

We need to be free to live and move and have our being in Jesus Christ. Do not let your ministry, your family and your private life be robbed any more. It is time to be free indeed!

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  1. Timothy Luke says:

    Set Free and Never Turning Back

    My life was out of control. My sexual sin consumed me to the point where I wanted it more than anything else. My sexual fantasies ruled my thought life to such a degree that, in many ways, I no longer lived in reality. Eventually I lost my closest friends, my job took a downward turn, and two weeks before our daughter was born my wife and I separated.

    At this point, I began to seek individual and group counseling, but it was like trying to cure a life-threatening illness with an aspirin rather than surgery. In other words, it only relieved the surface pain, rather than getting to the root of the problem. Yes, I was “recovering” in the world’s eyes, but in God’s eyes my heart was still filthy.

    During our separation, my wife and I committed to work our marriage back to health. We felt that something needed to be done to bring the axe to the root of my sin. Separately, we both began to investigate Biblical alternatives to sexual addiction counseling and both of us were led to the same place, Pure Life Ministries (PLM.)

    Why PLM? First of all, I was told in my initial phone interview for acceptance into the Live-In program that this was the place to be if I truly wanted to be free from the bondage of my sin. Secondly, the Lord worked out everything perfectly for me to come –my job, my finances, and my family.

    Little did I know, the Lord was going to walk me through some very difficult challenges. While I was a student in the PLM Live-In Program I had to face my sin and myself head on–something I had never done before. In the past, I had always done everything I could to stay away from conflict. However, it was through this series of conflicts that the Lord did something miraculous for me while I was at PLM: HE SET ME FREE! I graduated from the program free from my sin and have never turned back to it since that time. He also healed my marriage. From the day I graduated until now, there has been no looking back in our marriage.

    It took a miracle and Pure Life Ministries (PLM) was the vessel the Lord used in my life. My life has never been the same since. I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt, I would not be where I am today if it had not been for the Lord and the anointed ministry of PLM—a place where a man can come out of any sexual sin and be set free if he allows the Lord to do the work in his life while under the guidance of this ministry.

    The Lord also allowed my wife and I to give back what He gave to us by becoming workers at Pure Life. It was a privilege to serve Him as an intern and staff member at Pure Life for a period of time. I had the opportunity to see the Lord in a way that I never saw Him before. Through it, He required a deeper consecration to Him. Looking back, I can see the work He did while in this position changed my spiritual walk even more.

    The Lord rules and reigns at Pure Life. It is a place where God brings men from all over this nation to find Himself; a place where the Lord uses ordinary people to effect a profound spiritual impact on the lives of men and women who want to know the Lord at a deeper level. The Lord used this ministry to impart life to this sinner, and He will do the same for you if you commit yourself to allow the Lord to do whatever it takes to set you free.

    Maurice Colby – copied from Pure Life Ministries http://purelifeministries.org

  2. in response to Timothy Lukes correspondence Aug 09 might I suggest we`ve all got issues to deal with, easier said than done, I`m afraid, D L Moody could only say “I am vile”, he knew his own heart and therefore his need of Jesus. Let nobody boast of having a pure heart, you kid yourselves, not God. Suppoosing you had this pure heart, what would you do? I`ll tell you. You`d castigate other Christians who admitted (confessed) their struggles, you might even throw in Hebrews for good measure. True story this about an Anglican vicar who had abstained from homosexuality for a very long time. His pal was a pentecostal minister whose church attaended, he regarded his gay friend as an admirable example of an upstanding Christian. And then, in his 50s, he succumbed, cold bear it no longer. The pentecostal was devastated, after all this time. . .I could only think, that poor, poor man. Somehow this minister had not let Jesus deal with his situation, that evil spirit that causes a man to regard another man with desire had worn him down. We all need somebody to love and cherish. King David had God knows how many wives and concubines, And He would have given him more if he had but asked Him, 2 Sam 12 v 8. Instead, he took Basheeba, another man`s wife, shortly after God had given him victory over Saul, and settled him in the land. Talk about ungrateful! He then had planned the death of her husband, Uriah. Even after God challenged him through Nathan the prophet,and David repented, he STILL took this beautiful woman to be his wife! And David, as we know, was a man after God`s heart! Gordon Bennett, WHAT ARE WE WORRIED ABOUT? Give your problem to Jesus, leave it there, stop listening to Satan who`ll use and misuse Scriptures to condemn, condemn et al. Therin lies his power, we believe him! Praise the Lord for that which seems to be beyond your ability to deal with conclusively. We are to trust in Him, not our selves. Do you think we`ll get to heaven by our own efforts still? The Anglicans think that, they think they`re born again by infant baptism (sprinkling) whereas I was born again by believing the Gospel message. Try this:
    Jn6 v 29 – This is the work that God requires – believe in the One he has sent
    Ps 54 v 17 And you shall rebut every charge brought against you, such is the fortune of the servants of the Lord – their vindication comes from Me – this is the very word of the Lord
    Rom 4 v 5 But if without any work to his credit,he simply puts his faith in Him who acquits the guilty,then his faith is indeed counted as righreousness
    Ps 32 v 2 Happy is the man when the Lord lays no guilt to his account
    Do your struggles seem a little less now? Well, for your information, so do mine. While I`m typing on this computer, I can`t look at naughty ladies, and do you know, right now, I have no desire to! Praise His holy name, Thank you Jesus, sorry I`m slow to learn, I pray for all my struggling brothers and sisters,out there, the struggle is yours possibly with us, and you don`t give up on us. We won`t give up on you either, Lord, You are our hope, nobody`s gonna take that from us, AMEN

  3. I was once addicted to pornography. I used to spend hours looking at it.
    I told myself that:
    1) I’m not hurting anyone. I do this on MY time and in MY personal space.
    2) I just need to relieve some stress. It relaxes me.
    3) everyone does it. It’s OK
    4) It’s not even a sin. I’ve never seen a commandment that said “Thou shalt not masturbate”.
    5) I deserve to feel good.
    6) It helps me to relax
    7) It’s completely natural
    8) I just need to release some pressure.
    I was angry that my wife was offended by it. After all, its not like I was out having an affair. I dont bother you about what you do in private, so show me the same courtesy.
    Even after I came to the Lord, I wasnt convinced that I was sinning, but I was concerned enough that I wanted to KNOW if I was sinning. I went online and searched for “masturbation”, “self gratification” and “sexual immorality”. I found nothing at all that condemned what I was doing. I Googled things like Christian masturbation and found little direction on the subject.
    It must be OK…right? So, why did I feel in my heart that it was wrong. Was I condemning myself wrongfully? I began to pray about it regularly. Asking God for direction and guiedance. When I commited “the act”, I would pray for forgiveness “if it’s really wrong”.
    Finally one day, when it was heavy on my heart, my preacher had a sermon about it. He spoke about the difference between arousal and lust. To recognize beauty is normal. But when you carry it a step further in your mind and begin to imagine yourself acting on a desire, then you’ve begun to lust. He brought up a passage in the Bible that said that when you commit a sin in your mind, it’s the same as commiting that sin in real life. WOW ! the number of people I’ve slept with just went through the roof! I would have to call that being sexually immoral.
    He also spoke about Idolizing and coveting (hey, those are in the 10 commandments!)
    I finally began to realize that when I did “that” I was creating this huge fantasy in my head of how I wanted it to be and feel. I was scrolling through hundreds of photos looking for “The One”. I wanted an escape .
    I was getting drunk on pornography and now I could see how it was affecting so many areas of my life.
    I got on my knees and cried before God and begged him to forgive me and to give me the strength to overcome this. This helped a little, but I was still doing it. Every time I would do it, I would immediately cry out to God for forgiveness and help.
    I learned that I usually commited this sin when I was alone in a hotel, of after a very trying day when I got some alone time.
    I heard a sermon about how you should avoid circumstances that you know tempt you and that you should focus your thoughts elsewhere when being tempted.
    Over the period of about 6 weeks I practiced redirecting my thoughts and avoiding being alone. I continued daily to beg the Lord to help me overcome this. I poured myself into the Word of the Lord and the teachings of His ways.

    It’s been over a year now since I last looked at pornography. I have a wonderful wife who loves and supports me and my thoughts and desires are completely different from what they were then. I cant remember a time in my life when I was happier or more at peace.
    I have had a few times that satan has tried to tempt me. I held true to the principles listed above and cried out to God and satan has lost every time!
    I’ve learned that I personally need to spend a lot of time with the Lord. My days are profoundly greater when I spend time with God first. Just seeking to know Him, telling Him how much I love Him and how grateful I am for Him. Waiting for Him, looking for Him in all things, taking my problems to Him and seeking His guidance in all things.
    Not quite the person I used to be!
    God is sooooo AWESOME and soooooo GOOD! He loves us all in ways we cant even imagine.

  4. warrior daughter says:

    With a little bit, a person will want more and more and I am in total agreement on Tim’s post…This is sin and not a pasttime to make one feel better….You have placed the burden there yourself when you choose to watch porn…You have the choice to reject sin or keep embracing it which will lead you into more darkness…….

  5. Timothy Luke says:

    I received an email from a sincere enquirer today and I just wanted to share a question and my response, as it touches on this topic. My reply is straight forward, though modified a bit, and not suitable for younger eyes…

    QUESTION: ” Is it okay to watch a bit of porn , …it makes one feel good , ….and lightens the burden of daily life ?

    REPLY:

    “Sexual purity is important. Jesus said, “whosoever looks at a woman to lust after her in his heart has committed adultery with her.” God created women to be either our sisters, or our wife (singular) or our spiritual mothers. There is no room for uncovering a woman in our minds. You know from your own experience that it brings an addiction and a lust to go further and more often into those areas. You also will notice that your eyes are lustful when viewing even sisters in the church. This is unclean and it is defiling to a woman, who needs to be valued and respected, even as Jesus Christ valued the church and respected it.

    The Bible is also very clear when it says, “I will set no wicked thing before my eyes.” And also, Phi 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are *honest*, whatsoever things are *just*, whatsoever things are *pure*, whatsoever things are *lovely*, whatsoever things are of *good report*; if there be any *virtue*, and if there be any *praise*, think on these things.”

    Pornography is not honest. Do they tell you if the woman who is exposed is being held at gunpoint? Do they tell you how many times they have beaten her? Do they tell you how she was kidnapped and made to be addicted to drugs so they could abuse her like that?

    Pornography is not just, for the above reasons.

    Pornography is not pure. It is very impure. Very degrading and defiling. Do you know how many tears a prostitute cries? Do you know the fear and abandonment in their hearts? Some of them may enjoy the trade, but most are slaves who are bought and sold and abused. When you purchase and view these things online, you are supporting the perpetrators and have become a partaker in their sin… for the very God who sees your wandering eye, is at the same time looking at the woman who was so used, and seeing her tears and the scarring of her heart.

    There is NO good report, NO virtue, and NO praise in pornography. It also degrades your wife if you have one. This is evil in the eyes of the Lord and these are reasons it is taken so seriously. Ask your wife if she likes you to look at naked women and work out fantasies. I think you know the answer. This is why God comes down hard on it, and we should too.

    As Jesus said clearly, it breaks the commandment, “Thou shalt not commit adultery,” and is therefore, sin.

    I am being very clear here, but do not think I am angry. I am angry at the sin and the pain it causes.

    • lookinforacity says:

      Hello Tim

      In answer to your post of an E-Mail, if this person is a Christian looking for justification, then tell him don’t look in the bible for it. If he is looking for permission from a Christian then he has come to the wrong person for it.
      My assumption is that he is a Christian.

      Gal 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
      Rom 8:9 But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his.

      Heb 10:26 For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,
      Heb 10:27 But a certain fearful looking for of judgment and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.
      Heb 10:28 He that despised Moses’ law died without mercy under two or three witnesses:

      Heb 10:29 Of how much sorer punishment, suppose ye, shall he be thought worthy, who hath trodden under foot the Son of God, and hath counted the blood of the covenant, wherewith he was sanctified, an unholy thing, and hath done despite unto the Spirit of grace?

      Heb 10:30 For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people.

      Our relationship with God through Jesus Christ is Yea or Nay.
      He would rather have us to be cold than to be lukewarm

      Rev.3:15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot.
      Rev 3:16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.

      Heb 10:31 It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.

      JIM

      • Timothy Luke says:

        Hi JIm,

        He is from another culture and I do not know what the gospel message he received was. I felt he was being sincere in asking although he felt he already knew the answer. It is sad how far this world has fallen. Things like this used to be so obvious, but now we find ourselves questioning even these issues. Let’s pray that our brother receive the admonition in love and seek the Lord’s deliverance from the bondage of it.

        It is good to hear from you!

        Tim

        • The Hopeful says:

          I’m not the person who sent the e-mail but I was thinking that you guys could at least pretend that the other guy is reading these messages.It is almost like you guys are having a one on one conversation with the other guy standing nex to you.I’m not mad or anything just considering other points of view

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