My friend told me that,’Those ministers(Pastors) who get married don’t do the will of God truly.’
I don’t believe this.
Please tell me whether she is right and please explain. She also told me a reference Matthew 19:29.
I am waiting for an answer. Please help. Thank you.

What do YOU think?



  1. lookinforacity says:

    Tell your friend, she is just being legalistic.
    Jesus was answering a direct question from Peter, it was not a teaching of His, on how pastors should live their lives.
    If what she says were true, then ask her to explain.

    1Ti 3:1 This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
    1Ti 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless,(THE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE), vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
    1Ti 3:3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
    1Ti 3:5 (FOR IF A MAN KNOWETH NOT HOW TO RULE HIS OWN HOUSE), how shall he take care of the church of God?)

    A Bishop is someone who is over pastors, how did he get to that position, but by being a pastor himself.
    He would have to be married with children, to fulfill the requirements listed.

    But in regard to her personally, is she married, why did she get married if she is?

    Scripture on marriage says.

    1Co 7:34
    There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

    When people start to set standards by which people should live their lives, they don’t expect to be held to the same standards as those they wish to control.
    Does this person come from a Catholic background,or upbringing?


    • Joel Anil Bansode says:

      Thank you so much for your explaination. But before I read your explaination, I told her not to be in contact with me because it was the wrong teaching that she got. She’s of my age(17) and not married. I told her so because of what is written in 2John v10,11 that do not encourage or invite them home who do not teach the truth about Christ. I told her to stay away from me and we said goodbye to each other forever….
      Did i do the right thing?
      She is Pentecostal and South Indian.
      But I think she maybe Catholic before turning Pentecostal, but im not sure about this….
      Thank you…

      • Timothy Luke says:

        You asked a question where a person might have a certain understanding, with a scriptural basis to support it. Given her age, there are many things a person is still sorting out and coming to understand about God and life. I do not believe you needed to remove her from your fellowship over the communication you had on marriage… its not like she was going to marry you, given her perspective! 🙂

        1Co 7:25  Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
        1Co 7:26  I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
        1Co 7:27  Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
        1Co 7:28  But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
        1Co 7:29  But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
        1Co 7:30  And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;
        1Co 7:31  And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
        1Co 7:32  But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
        1Co 7:33  But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
        1Co 7:34  There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
        1Co 7:35  And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

        These verses are what you should base your assessment of her words on. NOTE: Paul did not make a big issue out of this… but you have and have probably hurt this person by your agressive handling of the Word in a spirit other than love. You need to apologize to her from a sincere and humble heart.

        Are there heresies she insists upon? Or is she simply in the middle of seeking truth? If you need to distance yourself, fine, but do not make this an issue of heretical teaching on her behalf. There is nothing wrong with the faith she displayed, as you relayed it to us in your original post. Paul would agree with her, for the operative word in her comment is "truly". That was the point of his message on this as a seasoned observer on the topic. Yet, he did not bind anyone to marry or abstain.

        Hope this helps.


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