Not forgiving can send you to hell

“And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
“So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” Matthew 18:34,35

Who is Jesus talking to? Answer: His disciples. Who are the torturers? They are demons. What is required by God? That in view of the great amount we have been forgiven by God, we must forgive all that hurt us and do injustice to us, especially our Christian brothers. What if we disobey and refuse to forgive? If we disobey, God will cancel our forgiveness with Him, hand us over to demons, where we will stay until we repent. But if we die in a state of bitterness, these demons will torment us forever until we are thrown into the Lake of Fire.

Please, remember. Forgiveness is not an optional extra for spiritual Christians. It is a vital element of our own spiritual survival. If you can’t forgive others to please God, at least forgive others for your own sake. God won’t bend the rules for you, and He won’t bend them for me. Do not let anyone deceive you with empty words. The teachings of Jesus are the standards by which we will be judged.

What do YOU think?


About Michael Fackerell

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  1. Forgiveness is hard, God did not say it would be easy. My husband has left me for another woman – two years ago. We are not divorced yet. She professes to be a Christian – and accused me of killing his faith, my husband has renounced his faith. I have realised that if I dont forgive, it is like ME drinking poision as I become bitter and look at what “they have” (envy), in fact I sin more because of how hurt I am. SO I am trying to forgive and be free. I do believe that as one cries out to GOD to help us forgive those who have hurt us deeply, so he can work in our lives and change US and so we get freedom. God CAN help us forgive too – cry out to him. Right now, everytime I get bitter, I try to pray for Godly people to enter my husbands life and that of the other woman and for them to repent and be saved. It IS hard, but God expects us to do the hard work because it is better for US in the end!

    So, I am really digging deep in this regard.

  2. toughlove says:

    Jesus specifically talks about forgiving your brother or your fellow servant. An unrepentant bully or criminal is not my brother, satan is his daddy. . If someone laughs in your face about how they hurt you or your family there is no basis for forgiving them, just turning them over for God’s Righteous judgment (Romans 12:19). In Luke 19:27 Jesus says he’ll execute everyone who doesn’t submit to His rule. God expects us to repent before He forgives us. We are no better than He is.In the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant, the two men were fellow servants. A bully is not my fellow servant, he serves the devil. The guy who owed the other man a quarter was not guilty of an act of malicious slander or violence. Nor did he brag about hurting the other guy and how he got away with it. Evil is running rampant in the world because of the false doctrine of unconditional forgiveness for all offenders, even the worst unrepentant ones. Tell someone God forgives them (even if they don’t repent) and , it robs them of the opportunity to be convicted of their sin and ENABLES and emboldens them to do worse the next time. Turn the hurt over to God and trust in the Righteous Judge of all the earth to balance the scales of justice.

    • michael says:

      Just because I forgive someone who wrongs me, does not mean that God forgives them. People need to be told to repent, but once we start REQUIRING justice for ourselves, we are going to end up bitter and twisted.

      See, the next step in this line of unforgiving thinking would go something like this: he's not a "real" Christian because if he was, therefore he wouldn't have cheated me in business. She's not a "real Christian" or she would not have left me. So I have got every right to hold unforgiveness against that person. Just the way the devil wants you to think.

    • Timothy Luke says:

      "If someone laughs in your face about how they hurt you or your family there is no basis for forgiving them,"


      To add to Michael's insight… Jesus, on the cross faced a mob of angry, spiteful, cursing and mocking people. He said, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."


      I am told to follow in His footsteps and that He did these things for an example. So, this becomes more than enough "basis for forgiving them." I do it for them, because Christ, while we were yet sinners, died for us. I do it because Jesus said "love your enemies, pray for them that spitefully use you (without repentance) and persecute you.


      If you hold onto your flawed theology, you may even find it fatal, for we pray, "forgive us as we forgive our debtors."


      Forgiveness is merely stating, "You owe ME nothing." That does not address the debt to God, as Michael pointed out. When we forgive others, we are not forced to be in relationship with them, we are simply freed from a codependent force that would bind us to their sin against us, to our own destruction and theirs.

    • bornagainbytheblood says:

      You’re way off base here. We are to forgive our enemies no matter what they have done or doing; it can only be done through divine love. You don’t have to like their ways, as even God does not like them, but you must forgive them. If they don’t repent, then an eternity in the torments of hell will be punishment enough. And, if you die with any unforgiveness, you’ll be there too.

    • Royallights says:

      Toughlove… Can you please point out any scripture that tells us not to forgive an unbeliever or a posturing or taunting bully?

      • toughlove says:

        Read Psalms 109 about what David had to say about enemies who kicked him when he was down. He didn’t forgive unrepentant offenders. do you think King David’s in hell today? Do you think I want to see that cruel bully up in heaven teasing me about how he got away with it and God didn’t even require him to repent? In verse 29 David prays his enemies will be clothed in shame. Why shouldn’t people get a taste of the crap they heaped on you? Is the unrepentant bully better than I am that he should be free of suffering and have a good time While I spent a lifetime overcoming the bad things he did to me? Where is the justice in that? Is Jesus going to baby the monsters who persecuted His people and didn’t repent? Read Revelation . 2 Chron.19:2: God brought wrath on someone who loved the ungodly and helped those who hated the Lord. In Luke 19:27 Jesus shows those who don’t want Him as their ruler no mercy. He asked GOD to forgive His crucifiers, it didn’t say He did it, and they knew not what they did. Bullies bully because they know what they’re doing. They’re getting cheap fun they don’t have to pay for. Our society is overrun with crime because of softness toward the wicked. Kids are killing themselves in school because bullies get away with it. Are the bullies more precious to God than the victims? Until you walk a mile in my shoes, you’ve got no right to judge me. Salvation is of grace, not works. Sorry to disappoint you, but you WILL see me up there, along with King David, Samson, and Joshua, brave warriors sometimes had to fight for what they believed in. I’m doing my bit to campaigin against school bullying. Heaven will not be a wimply Ned Flanders Fairyland full of people who turned a blind eye to evil. Do you think God would have forgiven me if I hadn’t repented first?

  3. I have learned from personal experience that if I am offended, and I hold a grudge and then become bitter that all kinds of evil imaginations in regard to this person who hurt me can take over for years. I was consumed with thoughts of envy and retaliation that started to eat at me and soon I realized my soul was in danger of Hell if I didn’t repent and ask God to help heal my thoughts about this person. I believe that the longer we entertain evil thoughts the longer it sometimes takes to break these patterns of thought. I am happy to say that I have forgiven this person and what originally happened was so blown up in my mind that I feel I was almost insane from the lies that satan told me. It was very scary. I am thankful that the holy spirit convicted me on this or I do believe I would have gone to Hell in that state! Thank you for your website it is very good! I will share it with everyone I know!

  4. I could not agree more. I do not believe that today’s churches are talking enough about forgiveness. If we do not forgive, we will not be forgiven. If you have accepted Christ as your Lord and Savior, but are still harboring unforgiveness, you will be required to pay in full the dept you owe. Forgive anyone who has done you wrong, TODAY. tomorrow may be to late

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