Marriage Restored

My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible……but with Almighty God…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE…… I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world….I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would've been going through what I once was. I'll try to be as brief as possible but I really don't want to leave any detail out….no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse. I don't want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise….but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation. Today is March 16th 2011…. My husband of 1yr and 5monts left me on November 30th 2010….BUT….all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead. As far as I could see we were the perfect couple……went out together…….stayed home together……laughed, joked……..we were like two peas in a pod……of course we had our regular marital problems….no marriage is perfect……..in addition to the above we also…..argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words…….LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE……it isn’t right but it happens….. In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him……you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement……and I mean short….lasting no more that a few minutes…..my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life……. All this happened on Nov 30th 2010…..I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm…..he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage…..ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex….it was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with. The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010….I called him…..he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life….that I should never call or text him again……..that was like a dagger through my heart……I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly…..but that isn’t the worse yet….. I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice……I felt frightened even listening to him……he told me….I NEVER LOVED YOU……I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED…..I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE…..I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN…..THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD”FRIEND……I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE…..I’M NOT COMING BACK……. I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life……..it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember that GOD does exists. I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God…..well God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable….and he got mine. I cried DAILY AND HOURLY……I felt all hope was gone….I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all…..YOU CANT….BUT GOD CAN…… I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone……I felt like I lost the better part of me…..I couldn’t eat….I couldn’t eat ….I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work…..but God had a plan…….even though all seemed lost……God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting…..what the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good. I enlisted the help of three persons…….a Prophetess an Apostle and a church Pastor…..these were all spiritual people I knew……and strong men and women of God……I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed. I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband…..I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY…..I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus. Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers wasn’t as flowing as other people but everyday I gain more and more strength and my faith began to soar…..I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared……I asked God to send Godly people in his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me…. I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage…warfare….prayer…you name it ….every website I could think of…….. And I just wrapped my husband up and prayed what ever pray I could even verbatim from some of those same books…….I became like a one man army….. At times the devil whispered in my ears and un belief and doubt settled in….I would call my pray warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours I would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my boo .. To make a long story short……Sunday January 16th 2011….I got a text from my husband….who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011…..told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life. He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house….he wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our marriage… I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something….but I thought it would be perhaps a Hi hello…how are you….or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something……….I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day….that instant….. He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday….he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do……..he said from the time he said that everything just went crazy…..everything he saw reminded him of me…..when he went to sleep him dreams were constant replays of our life together…..he started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous….. In short…..God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much….. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME. I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like….it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning……..we plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD.. DO NOT GIVE UP….THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON…LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE…HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU…..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO…..THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW…..DO NOT LISTEN……even in your tears….cry out to God….when you don’t know what to say…..just say JESUS….nothing more…….tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out….. This isn’t every single detail of what happened there are parts m issing…but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous…but I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE… Be encouraged

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  1. Thank you for sharing. It was very encouraging to me. I have been in a very emotionally destructive marriage for the past 6 years. We recently found out my husband has bipolar disorder and is being evaluated for meds today. Today is also our ten year anniversary. We lost our older son 2 1/2 years ago to a rare cancer, he was about to be 4 years old at that time. Thank God for his Word that brings life and hope to my heart. I believe he is working out all things for the good. Your story reminds me that I need to surround myself with people of God who will pray for my husband and marriage and our 2 other children. Thanks again for sharing!

  2. lookingforhope2011 says:

    In reading these old posts it is encouraging to see God at work. One of the things that always comes to mind when I read these victories is “yeah it worked for them but will it for me” sometimes I feel like I messed up for the last time or there’s some unconfessed sin I have or there’s some wall between me and Jesus and I can’t get over it. Then I have days where I blast that wall apart with a army tank only to hit it again the next day!. Im guessing this may not be new to a lot of you. But to me its terrifying to say the least. I know a mustard seed is tiny but more times than not my faith seems even smaller and if it wasn’t for stronger more encouraging brothers and sisters than I am I would just give up!. But for now I stand!

    • Holyroller_11 says:

      God sees the heart, Sin is only sin when it is known!! this is the truth of the matter, when a little child dies,though he was born under the curse,will still go to heaven, because he has no knowledge of sin.God is just,even when man;s righteousness is as fithey rags, so Hold up your hands and praise the Lord, and be blessed, The HolyGhost inhabits the praises of his people!!

  3. sherikaa says:

    This story is just what I needed to hear! I’m going through a really hard time in my marriage. I cheated on my husband, I regret it and have asked for God’s forgiveness! My husband doesn’t want to get a divorce because we have an 8 month old daughter but he says he no longer believes in love and that he doesn’t believe I’m the person he married. I have been praying everyday, crying and begging for this situation to turn around! I have faith God willl restore our marriage and that we will put God ahead of our lives. Thank you for sharing your story! I have more hope than ever now!

  4. Hey Hun….what’s up:)..

    Listen to me…hang in there no matter what……it would never be God’s will for you to walk away from your marriage….NEVER….remember what the word of God says…….Satan is like a roaring lion seeking whom he may destroy……it is his job to frustrate and discourage you to the point where you feel hopeless and beaten…..

    Yes there will be time when we just feel like giving up….like it isnt worth it….like you’d be happier without the stress….God knows I felt that way…..but I’m going to tell you the truth…..I wasnt much of a Christian in terms of life style….yes I went to church on Sundays and during the week….but my faith and Christian walk was at a zero…..

    What really kept me was the knowledge that God LOVES family and he HATES divorce…..that little fact my friend….above all else….that one thing kept me……I was assured that if God hated divorce and it would never be his will that I should give up on my husband…then I was again assured that he would fight on my behalf…..even when the situation seemed hopeless…

    So I want to encourage you buddy….dont matter how messy your situation looks….doesnt matter whether she says she loves you or you say you love her…..sometimes we get so caught up in our everyday lives that we loose each other along the way…..but ahhhh……when everything seems dead…..we have a God that specializes in raising the dead…..he is able to polish and restore what love you both had…..he is able to stregthen your bond and he will….you just turn it over to him and get out of his way……..he is more that able my friend and my pray is that he would show up in the midst of your situation and turn things around.

    What the devil meant for evil in your marriage….almighty and all powerfull God is going to turn around for the good of you and your wife :)…..I KNOW IT so be encouraged my friend 🙂

  5. yurekea1 says:

    I was just blogging about how that when I pray to the lord for direction on my marriage, my feelings and contact with my wife seem to increase. After reading your story I am feeling justified. I needed to be reminded that thoughts of moving on and giving up are in deed doubts that satan places with the hope of destroying God’s work. If our marriage was hopeless we would have each moved forward after 3 years, yet instead we both talk of the difficulties we each face in trying to do that very thing. Just this year she said she loved me after I expressed my feeling to her. I don’t think she even wants to love me? But the words were true and sincere. I need to remind myself of the hope and strength that still exists within the love that god placed in each of us for the other. Thank you for the encouraging words. -God Bless.

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Marriage Restored through Prayer and Faith

Hi,

I just wanted to share that for those of us who married before meeting the Lord Jesus, there is hope.

My husband and I were both unsaved when we got married 10 years ago. After two years into the marriage, the revelation came to me that “God loved me”. It was such an amazing concept to me, that One so Great, could love an insignificant ant like me. I fervently read the Bible until the book fell apart. It changed my life. My husband did not like it…it scared him and we ended up separating while he continued his “wild” living. With the support of his family and friends, he excluded me from his life…even though I was expecting his first child at the time.

Although we had sought at least 10 different counselors and pastors for help, it only made matters worse. I found that the church was not as supportive as I thought they would be. One pastor made light of my husband’s flamboyant ways (I left that church and later found out that the pastor was removed for having an affair with another man). It was a long, lonely nine months with many tears. I was hanging off the cross most days of my pregnancy, this was my wilderness experience and God seemed so distant and I felt like I was holding my breath.

I got baptized when I was five months pregnant and somehow I knew I was going to continue going through the fire. This fire produced my testimony. When I finally had my healthy baby, my husband continued playing games and our attempts to reconcile kept ailing. I had to call upon, Jesus Christ, “tough love”, exceptional grooming and cleanliness in all aspects of my life, to go through it… a legal-type separation. By now I had the strength to stand strong on the rock of my salvation and stand firm on the truth of the word of God. I drew my lines, defined them and my husband was unable to see me at all. He was now free to spend all the time in the world doing whatever pleased him the most. I prayed fro him during this time asking God to save him even if our marriage ended in divorce…I prayed for his salvation, not for my benefit but for his. I had a few wonderful Christian mentors at the time who gave me perspective and reminded me of who I was in Christ on those days that I felt doubtful. I lit a candle, read the word and prayed with Jesus and the Holy Spirit, since “where two or more are gathered He is present”…I had no one else to pray with during those 30 days (which I had not deliberately counted by the way).

I did experience the miracle when my husband and I chance met under strange circumstances. My husband told me that he had accepted the Lord Jesus as his savior, and of his experiences with God during that time. God is true. He stands true to His word and there is nothing impossible for Him. I had no belief that we would reconcile but God showed me. I put my husband’s salvation first before all of my personal hopes and my reward was a reconciled marriage. I was more than happy to not sin against God by divorcing. I have been able after that to help my sister go through a fierce battle in her own marriage by introducing her to Jesus Christ and helping her along the way. I was supposed to write a book on my experience to help encourage other married couples but it has not materialized. Today, the thought came into my mind… “God’s miracles”. That’s how I found you…It is His will for me to share my testimony through you. Thank you kindly for your website and for the ability you offer us to share the visible side of God with others.

God Bless You!

Kim
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