I am 38 years of age, I have been praying for a mate for as long as I can remember. I have never been married. I gave my life to the Lord at the age of 12. I have backslid and had two daughters out of wedlock. I have repented and asked for forgiveness from the Lord and I know he has. I have been walking in his Grace and mercy for some time now. I have never truly been the type of female that most men approach or even try to get to know. I walk in constant prayer with everything. The Heavenly father has provided for me and my daughters in every area with the exception of a mate, Even my daughters ask me all the time, when are you getting married and my response is whenever the Lord send me a suitable mate, However, it is said with lack of Faith. I try to hold on with Faith because he has done so many wonderful things in my life. I have witness so many miracles in my life and I know he is able but yet in this areas of my life, I seems to be defeated and spend so many lony days. I know and hear people say that it is better to be single, but my deepest desire is to have a loving, Godfearing mate. I am about to give up on that dream and do not know what to do. I prayed and made my desires known to the Lord. I do not know how to restore my Faith in that area of my life! I don’t know what to do!

What do YOU think?



  1. lookinforacity says:


  2. Joyful Praise says:

     At Faith Hope’s, I understand your concern. I am 38, single women, never married, no children, and I wonder the same things as you. And, it does become very discouraging at times, but, it is your FAITH in GOD that will help you continue to walk and seeking GOD for your mate. I am always reminded of Matthew 21:22 “And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall recieve.

    I am beliving GOD for marriage too, and I want to encourage your soul today, and I know that GOD will send you a mate! Keep trusting and beliving in him, and hold onto the promises of GOD. They are sure!


    I will keep in you and your family in my prayers!!

    Joyful Praise


  3. My best advice have faith, if God has placed this desire in your heart it will happen. I believe the best thing is to meditate on the scriptures about what God says about being single, try not to be obessed about it because it will drive you crazy. Also ask the Lord to show you the man who God has for you. Ask him to do something specific. Keep praying, whether it is early in the morning before you start your day, or during the evening 12am, like Christ did. Confess your sins, and unforgiveness in your heart, and fast!! Fasting helps you realse the flesh desire. Fast 12 hours if you can, make it a part of your monthly schedule, and be upfront with the Lord. My dear it will happen. When you have doubt, remember to back up the scripture to cancel those negative thoughts. Ask the Holy spirit for help, and pray freventaly, and fast!!! God bless you!!!



  4. faithishearing says:

    I know how it feels, but I also know what the bible says:

    Psalms 84:11 says that God will not withold any good thing from those whose walk is upright.


    Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires
    of your heart. Psalm 37:4

    But is it the will of God for you to have a husband? That is a question whose answer only you and God will know. If you prayed this prayer, and God confirmed it in your heart that you will have a husband, than trust and believe that God will fulfill His promise. God’s timing is strange (at least to us humans), I find the time that I am most frustrated or the time that I lose faith and give up, is the time when God moves the most powerfully. In fact, that is the way it happens for me the most often. I think because God knows that I am an impatient person.

    In the grand scheme of things, and even right now, we can know and trust that God always does the right thing at the right time.

    Here are some practical things that you can do.

    Pray. Find out what God’s will is. Are you mistaking your own desires for God’s will? Is God telling you to wait? Is God giving you this time (season of singleness) to do something else? Ask God what He wants you to do. Maybe He wants to use you in some ministry or some other service, or even as a mentor to someone else. That doesn’t mean that He will never give you a husband. If you are seeking a very spiritually mature husband (as I am) are you spiritually mature? Are you growing in the Lord? 2 Cor 6:14 Maybe God is using this time to mold you into a more suitable helper for your future partner.

    If you are seeking God, and the mate God destined for you is seeking God, it is inevitable that you will meet. Have faith in that. As a Spirit led people of God naturally gravitate to each other. I found with myself, that as I was seeking God, I found many other people who were. There are a great many people in ministry, in the church, in God’s service who you can develop friendships and fellowship with. Maybe even your future husband. Who know? (Except God.) If you are godly, you will go to the places other christians go to, where godly men are, and if it is God’s will, things will happen. Have faith.

    Third and final thing, keep Jesus first! Jesus cannot be second place in your heart.It can become an obsession. (My sister has this problem).If your prayers are focused solely on this topic, if you find yourself only reading bible verses about this, and if you only find yourself talking/thinking about this, watch out!

    If it is God’s will that you get a husband, than you will get one.

    Have faith and keep praying!

  5. Clayton777 says:

    Sis, Since you have asked The Lord for a mate, he is more than able to give you one. But as long as you have surrendered to the Lord, trust Him, and also ask that His will be Done. Never give up hope, but renew your strength in the Lord. Are you Baptised Sister? If Not then you must. Do you go to church? Let your hope be based on drawing near to the Lord, and speak to your PAstor about the Problem. He would be able to help you as a shepherd of the local body. Above all know that the Lord is MORE than Able to do Exceedingly well above all our expectations, and all we must do is fall into Daddy’s HAND. Only trust Him!. God be with you Sis.

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