Know how to stop watching porn?

I need help on porn. I want to stop watching it but I find it hard to. I feel that it is limiting my relationship with God. What can I do to stop watching it and committing myself fully to God? I’ve informed God I find it hard but still nothing happens. The most I’ll go without watching porn is at most 1 week. After watching it I feel bad but then a week later I’m back at it. This seems to be the only sin I need help on. Advice?

What do YOU think?

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  1. getoverporn says:

    Hi all who’s reading this, especially user “godson,”

    Getting over pornography can be a huge undertaking, but try not to beat yourself over it when occasional failures arise. Let me give you an example:

    People – usually men – have a goal oriented way of overcoming porn. They count the days in which they don’t watch porn and measure their progress that way. However, if they fail and watch porn for one day, they beat themselves over it and feel like they have to “start over.” This gets creates a self-defeating cycle that’s bad for self-esteem and de-motivates people to quit porn.

    Instead, the outlook should be a positive one if someone fails. Let’s say something hasn’t watched porn for 30 days, and they watch it on the 31st day. They should celebrate how far they’ve got in those 30 days and continue forward on the 32nd day. Use that mindset to go forward instead of focusing on that one day of failure. We need to be bigger than our problems.

    Another method that worked amazingly for me was to recondition my mind and behavior slowly. I started by decreasing the intensity (in content and length) of the adult videos I was watching. Combine this with other reconditioning methods, I conquered my 10-year addiction in under 3 months.

    I wrote an eGuide which you can find on http://www.GetOverPorn.com – my customers have said it’s the most practical and action-oriented guide they’ve ever read that’s actually helped them stop watching porn for good.

    Best of luck!

    Marc

  2. PearlBoy says:

    How to get rid of addictive stuff

    Requirement:

    1) Realizing that watching porn is bad for spiritual growth.
    2) Realizing that it is addictive and never satisfactory (the more you watch the more you want).
    3) The desire to get rid of watching porn and other addictive habits.

    steps:

    1. Praying –

    In your everyday prayers ask God to take away the desire to watch porn and other bad thoughts. Don’t forget to pray daily! You cannot overcome this habit on your own. Praying is very important!!

    2. Shifting Desktop –

    Shift your desktop into your living room. Make sure that your family members are able to see what you are viewing on your PC. Having the desk top inside your room gives you the temptation to watch bad stuff. Therefore shifting your desktop to a common place visible to others will control you from watching bad stuff

    3. Parental control for laptop/ Desktop –

    Make sure your antivirus program has parental control option. Ask your friend to type a password for parental control and start using the teenager mode (NOT parent mode). Even if you’re tempted to go to bad sites you need the password. Tell your true friend not to tell the password. He should type it for you on your laptop. If desktop ask you parents or sibling to do the job. YOU SHOULD NOT KNOW THE PASSWORD.

    The later 2 are controls to avoid watching porn but to get the desire to watch these out of your mind YOU NEED TO PRAY! KEEP ASKING GOD TO MAKE YOUR THOUGHTS/ACTIVITIES CLEAN! Ask God that your thoughts and desires should be ACCEPTABLE IN HIS SIGHT!
    KEEP PRAYING AND GOD WILL FREE YOU FROM ALL YOUR ADDICTIONS!!

    God Bless!

  3. Hey Redbuck, I think what Timothy was trying to say is that all men (and women) are created in the image of God, and from that standpoint, we need to honor and respect them. I don’t believe he was attempting to negate the exclusive relationship that we have with “the brethren” (fellow believers).

    On the issue of how to stop looking at pornography, well, just stop doing it! Make a quality decision and God will back it. The decision is where the power is (That’s what repentance is). Jesus wouldn’t have told us to “repent” if we couldn’t do so, but God also understands how we are made, and will work with us. Don’t condemn yourself if you fall, but get back up on the horse and ride! (The Word, not the pornography!)

    • This may come as a shock to some, but pornography is not the problem; the problem is in the heart. Pornography is simply a graphic description of people involved in adultery, fornication, homosexuality, and other illicit activities. Ask yourself, “Why do I want to look at these things?” Is it because you have a desire to see a naked woman? (Nothing wrong with that!!) Is that shocking? No, God designed it this way; I have been away from home now for a month, and when I get home, I want my wife to get as naked as she can, as soon as she can!!! That’s right! The problem comes in when you want to see MY wife naked, or any other woman that doesn’t belong to you (That’s called “coveting” or “lust”). God ordained marriage for a reason (besides simply procreation) (Yes, for pleasure!) Talk to God about sex, it’s alright to give that area of your life to him; the result will be amazing, and you will probably simply lose interest in watching pornography. Why is pornography wrong? Because there is no love and no covenant, things which God has designed for the sexual relationship, and in most cases promotes fornication (illicit sexual activities). Pornography is the world’s attempt to fulfill something that only God can fulfill.

    • It goes without saying that we are to love our brothers as ourselves. As for honour and respect, the scriptures make it plain who we are to honour and respect, and it isn’t everyone.

      Your support for Tim-Luke is admirable, but is a bit late. If you read his post and mine in reply, I never disputed the fact about the image, all I did dispute was his terms “daughters of God” and the implications of the term.

      In reply to your post the problem is not the heart. it is our thoughts, even though you will find a scripture or two that will say “the thoughts of the heart”. We know that this means ‘our inmost being’. The problem with pornography is not the heart but the will. Our mind knows it’s wrong, even our heart (conscience) will tell us it is wrong, but we still do it. Like godson said “I want to stop watching it but I find it hard to”. Unfortunately there is no quick fix, for even though we may fight the urges, our minds will betray us, and even in our dreams our minds will entertain thoughts that we fight so hard to defeat whilst awake.

      You want to know how to defeat the urge to watch pornography, fear. We all know the verse that says “The fear of The Lord is the beginning of wisdom”, some of us might know the passage that says “…therefore let us worship God acceptably with reverence and fear, because our God is a consuming fire.” But we should all know that when we first begun “The Way” of life and we repented, our life from then on is one of repentance and holiness. If we do not live such then we have forgotten that we were forgiven our PAST sins.

      (2Pe 1:8-9) For these things being in you, and abounding, they will make you not idle, not unfruitful in the full knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. For the one in whom these things are not present is blind, being shortsighted, taking on forgetfulness of the cleansing of his sins in time past.

      If we do not continue in holiness and repentance, which is evidence of our fear of God, then only one thing awaits:

      For if we choose to go on sinning after we have received the full knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but only a terrifying prospect of judgment and a raging fire that will consume the enemies of God Anyone who violates the law of Moses dies without mercy “on the testimony of two or three witnesses.” How much more severe a punishment do you think that person deserves who tramples on God’s Son, treats as common the blood of the covenant by which it was sanctified, and insults the Spirit of grace?
      (Heb 10:26-29)

  4. Timothy Luke says:

    Redbuck, All women are God's daughters in that He is their Creator. Go back to the geneologies and Adam is the son of God. All are created in God's image. All are created for Godly love and affirmation. Do we think God would have us treat the unsaved as less than saved? Jesus came to call sinners, not righteous to repentance. That is  my premise.

    Of course, you are correct in the spiritual aspect of being born again sisters. But we are called to love all, whether they are born again or not.

    • Redbuck40 says:

      Tim-Luke,

      Yes it is mentioned that Adam is the son of God, in English. But in Greek the words “the son of” is not there. Luke 3:38 is a collection of names that are joined by one Greek word (in the TR & Strong’s is G3588). This word του can be translated as both masculine and feminine, or even neuter. It could mean: the, this, that, one, he, she, it. If the writer meant “born of” he would have used γεννάω (Strong’s G1080) or “brought forth” τίκτω (G5088), or even “son” υἱός (G5087).

      Should we treat unbelievers as less than? No, but we should treat them differently. For example, an older woman (who is not your mother by blood or adoption) should not be considered your mother, under God. They are not in your family.

      No, the premise you started with is not that Jesus came to call sinners… but that you gave no distinction between those in the Kingdom and those outside of it. According to you everyone is already a child of God. But nowhere in the scriptures can you find a statement that says that all people are God’s children, I can find some that say men are, but the women are always called “daughters of men”. Indeed in 1 Corinthians it states that man was made in God’s image, but woman in man’s, that woman was made from man.

      Therefore from the one could say that only men, since only they were made in God’s image are God’s sons. But Jesus made it clear when he said to some: “I know who your father is, he the Devil”. Therefore not all those who are created in his image are his sons.

      If I carve a sculpture from a rock and make it into my image does it then become my son? Don’t you see how this premise of “image equals child” has no basis in fact, and can be put down just by a simple illustration?

      Yes we are called to love, and to hate, we are called to love our neighbour, and we are to love especially (or more specially) those who are in Christ Jesus.

      There is to be a distinction between how we love, for if there was not, how could our Lord Jesus ever say “I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. As I have loved you, you should also love one another. By this all shall know that you are My disciples, if you have love toward one another”, if that love was not to be different.

      Now for all those who are sitting in bewilderment about this reply consider this for a moment, “a verse out of context is a pretext” likewise advising someone to follow scripture, whilst giving a wrong interpretation of it, because one started with a wrong premise, will lead to a false hope.

      However, I wish this subject had come up in a different thread, as by tackling this subject I have been unable to show that, I am for the fight against porn, and against the discrimination of women.

      • Timothy Luke says:

        Redbuck,

        In the Bible, we allow for context to determine and point us to meaning – recognizing that while a sentence may be taken to justify one thing, its true intent and meaning are found in context.

        If we give my posts that simple courtesy … that the words may convey more than one meaning, but the context may allow for only one … then may I be let off the hook for the interpretations you are imputing to what I have written?

        When it comes to respecting women (which is the context and genesis of my comment) I suggest we respect all of them as daughters of God, who is the Creator and protector of all.

        Respectfully,

        Timothy

        • Redbuck40 says:

          I do agree that all people as creations of God should be treated as such. That God’s laws for how we should treat each other is very clear and should be adhered to.

          Jesus said to him, You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.
          (Mat 22:37-40)

          If one did love the Lord our God with all his heart, one would not look at porn.

          If one did love our neighbour (aussie spelling) as yourself, one would not treat another as an object.

  5. lookinforacity says:

    Hi all

    In a furtherance of this discussion on pornography.
    Seeing that everyone enjoys taking the word of God literally.
    This is the perfect time and question to post the following scripture.
    Are we to take this verse literally, if not, then how is it to be understood, or just what would be the correct interpretation of it?

    Mat 5:29
    And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

    Mar 9:47
    And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire:

    Common now posters, don’t be shy, give us your best understanding.
    This question, has been asked a number of times before, lets determine the definitive answer that will help those with this same problem in the future.

    JIM

    • It is something in the soul of man which loves the pleasure of sin over the will of God. And it is THIS something which must be put to the cross effectively.

      Jesus didn't say it was your hand or your eye that causes you to sin. But he did say, whatever it is that does, GET RID OF IT.

      Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

    • Timothy Luke says:

      Jim, let's get the context from Mark (which differs from Matthew's… but that's another person's to cover… 🙂

       

      Mark 9:42-47 

      "And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.


      "And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched: Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.


      "And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:  Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.


      "And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire."

      From this passage, we can contextually see that Jesus is talking about the body of believers. Joining this with 1 Corinthians 12:12 we read:

      "For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ."

      When members of the church cause division, it does not matter how 'important' or powerful or 'needed' they are… it is better to remove them from the body, lest the whole congregation be destroyed and cast into hell.

      Yet another reminder that 'once saved, always saved' is not scriptural, for Jesus is saying that to keep a saved body of believers from perishing, action must be taken. If they weren't really perishing anyway, then why worry and take such action?

      • lookinforacity says:

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      • lookinforacity says:

        Hi Tim

        Sorry for my delay in answering you.
        I can say I whole heartedly agree with your assessment of the contextual interpretation of the verse from Mark, as meaning the local church, body of Christ. I even agree with your joining of Mark 9 with
        1 Corinthians 12:12.

        I am however unsure though as to the depth of your ending statements.

        1) “Yet another reminder that ‘once saved, always saved’ is not scriptural,”
        2) “for Jesus is saying that to keep a saved body of believers from perishing, action must be taken.”
        3) “If they weren’t really perishing anyway, then why worry and take such action?”

        These verses were not speaking about the Salvation of the body of believers being lost, but the unity, because if you allow the one that has offended, the body to remain, then there would come contention, divisions, and all manner of confusion. There has to be a set standard by which any body functions.
        Paul speaks to this very question, but in two different places, with two different problems which affect the body. One was outright sin, the other was Judaizing. Warning both church body’s “a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump”. First in 1Co 5:1-13 – Second in Gal. 5:1-12

        In regard to your statement
        “Yet another reminder that ‘once saved, always saved’ is not scriptural”

        What does this mean, and how was it to work?
        1Co 5:5
        To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.

        I offer a Hypothetical:
        Any child having been born in the natural, have a father and a mother.
        If that same child becomes adopted, do they cease being the child’s natural father, and mother?
        Is it physically possible for anyone to become a NON – CHILD in regard to their parents?
        The answer is “No” you cannot, because you are the product (seed) of their union, without them you would not have come into existence.
        So likewise, you cannot become a NON – CHILD of God.

        The only thing that separates mankind from God, is sin.
        Rom 6:2
        God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?

        1Jn 3:4,8-9
        4) Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law.
        8) He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil.
        9) Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for (HIS SEED) remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.

        Rom 8:31-39
        31) What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?
        32) He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give us all things?
        33) Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God’s elect? It is God that justifieth.
        34) Who is he that condemneth? It is Christ that died, yea rather, that is risen again, who is even at the right hand of God, who also maketh intercession for us.
        35) Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
        36) As it is written, For thy sake we are killed all the day long; we are accounted as sheep for the slaughter. 37) Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
        38) For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
        39) Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

        Gal 5:24
        And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

        Be Blessed
        JIM

  6. deborahknight20 says:

    I read a very good book called “what’s on your mind” by merlin carruthers which is for men. It may help you. It is a battle against the flesh. I have a similar problem with going out drinking. However as I am spending more time getting closer to God, I dislike it more and more. The problem with those images is that they are engraved in your brain and the devil will use them to play back to torment you. Tou have to keep washing your brain and mind in the blood of Jesus. Here is a site you can go to for powerful prayers to say, also try to fast, start off by fasting till lunch time , and use that time to pray, or whenever you can. We are in a fight against ourselves as well as with Satan. It is not easy.
    http://www.mfmegbedaregion.org/
    go to the right hand box and get into the pages for demon spirits. You can go forward or back for other pages.

  7. When I was addicted to porn, I came to realize that it interfered with my communion with God. That was un acceptable to me. You have to want God more than you want porn.
    When I would do it, I would become very distraught and would cry and beg God to help me. I told Him it was more powerful than me and I couldnt control it.
    I had to STRIVE to not do it. In the beginning I could go a week, then 10 days, then two weeks. After several failures and several crying prayers for help, one day I realized that it had been about a month since I had done it. I began to thank and praise God. It’s now been nearly three years. I still get tempted occasionally…usually when I’m on the verge of a spiritual breakthrough or spiritual growth. Sometimes the temptations are incredibly strong.
    I also learned that there were certain times and places that caused me to be tempted. For me it was being alone in a hotel while traveling ( I travel a lot). I learned to find things to do to keep me out of the hotel until bedtime. I also learned to focus my thoughts on Jesus, or read the bible when I felt tempted. Busy your mind with good things. Darkness cannot exist in the Light.
    God will deliver us, but WE have accountability also…WE have to strive and strain and press forward.
    We are called to be warriors. Pick up your sword and fight!

    I’ll pray for you.
    Your brother and fellow soldier

    • I liked ur line-“We are warriors——“. Please keep fighting it and u will be glad that u didn’t give in to ur temptation and u wud feel close to God

  8. The first thing you need to do is get rid of anything that assists you in participating in it. If necessary, put a block on your computer & ask someone you can trust that knows the password only, not you (if the problem’s watching it online). Get rid of all magazines, pictures, etc. – anything that may be a temptation to you – and ask the Lord to show you anything else that you may overlook that is tempting to this behavior. Also, you need to go into prayer & ask the Lord to show you any ungodly soul ties you may have to anyone, and cut them off. I can also recommend a book to you called, “Sex, Demons, & Morality,” by Peter Dobson. This talks about lustful behaviors, deliverance prayers, and education on how the Lord feels about these things in His Word.

    • Redbuck40 says:

      Concise and accurate.

      The password I would suggest is Jesus_hates_porn.

      You won’t feel like typing that in to look at porn.

    • I found your advice very practical JSpring. You have clearly outlined the steps one need to do to destroy all sources of pornography and have also provided good materials to build up the spiritual immune system. There is just one thing I would like to add to your list of effective things to do when tempted or attacked by pornographic thoughts and that is to actually, literally, call upon the name of the Lord at that precise moment when the craving is there. That breaks the yoke immediately. When this happens one must make all efforts to keep oneself occupied until the hour of temptation has passed. Speaking from personal experience, so I know it helps.

    • futurenavyseal141 says:

      Jspring: Is there anywhere in particular that you can find this book. Because I can’t find it anywhere online or at Barnes and Noble

  9. bornagainbytheblood says:

    James 4
    [7] Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
    [8] Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you…

    Friend – I’ll be praying for you. However, you’ve got to have the will to put that sin away. Start off by throwing at that junk in the garbage. Then, when the urge hits you, resist the devil by using the name of Jesus and His divine blood. Stand on God’s Word, and watch the devil flee.

    Ephesians 6
    [13] Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
    [14] Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth,

    God’s Word is truth to defeat the devil!

    In His love & truth — a Soldier of the Cross

  10. Timothy Luke says:

    Godson, one suggestion would be to read the Bible on what God says about uncovering your sister's nakedness. You can look it up in the concordance. All women are our sisters and we are our sisters' keepers. Ask God to give you His eyes, and His heart toward his daughters…. All women are God's daughters.  Ask Him what He thinks of those who defile them. Know that you have a stronghold. You are responsible for having given place to the devil. Repent for giving place and turn from it, but know that it is only the power of God that can cleanse you and turn you from your sin. Cleave to Him and take your thoughts captive and cast down every vain imagination….

    • Redbuck40 says:

      “All women are God’s daughters”.

      Where did you get that from?

      As far as I understand the scriptures the only sisters a believer has is both his physical sister and his spiritual sister.

      “All women are our sisters and we are our sisters’ keepers”.

      If you start off on the wrong foot, you will never win the race. Likewise with your advice starting with an incorrect premise (as far as I can understand the scripture) will lead to the wrong conclusion. There is only one verse that I can find that has both the words ‘daughter’ and ‘god’ (MKJV) and it does not help your argument:

      Judah has dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem. For Judah has profaned the holy place of Jehovah, which He loves, and has married the daughter of a foreign god.
      (Mal 2:11)

      Where did you get this line of thought? I am genuinely interested.

      Oh and godson, jspring is quite helpful, his advise will help you a great deal.

      I would suggest you meditate (think intently and at length) on the scripture “Finally, my brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are right, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think on these things.”
      (Php 4:8)

      • deborahknight20 says:

        Whether they are or they are not all sisters and daughters of God, women were made in the image of God as men were, and to lust after them and undress them is doing the same to the Image of God. So I think you r remark was out of order because this brother Timothy Luke is actually being protective and behaving in a godly way towards women in general.
        If more men thought like he does, there would not be so much sexual abuse because the majority of porn stars are or have been abused terribly..

        • faithishearing says:

          Thank-you Deborah,
          As for the talk about all women being God’s daughters, I really don’t know why the distinction is being made. Whether or not the woman is God’s daughter or not, a believer or not, should not matter. Everyone should be treated with respect. I really do not understand the motive behind making such a distinction, why should it even matter? Should one be treated differently than the other?
          I understood Timothy meant, and I do not see how it could have been misinterpreted. I do not think it was misinterpreted, but maybe some felt the need for discussion.
          “All women are our sisters and we are our sisters’ keepers.”
          In other words, treat everyone in the same way you would want your own sister, daughter, or mother to be treated.

          • I agree that we should treat others women as we would, sister, mother or daughter,but only those who are in the Church. We are not told to treat others the same way, and to apply this passage to everyone is a misuse of it. (Mat 12:50, Mark 3:35 & 1 Tim 5)

            If Tim-Luke wanted to say “love your neighbour as yourself” he could have just said it.

            Tim-luke was applying a false premise to a true scripture, that was my only objection. This is meant to be a “christian” site, and the misuse of scripture to fit a worldly understanding should be pounced upon.

            As I have previously said in regard to those suffering from pornography addiction I would advise them to meditate on the scripture “Finally, my brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honest, whatever things are right, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report; if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think on these things.”
            (Php 4:8)

          • redbuck40, Here is a text for you …
            ” 26 From one person God made all nations who live on earth, and he decided when and where every nation would be.

            God has done all this, so that we will look for him and reach out and find him. He isn’t far from any of us, and he gives us the power to live, to move, and to be who we are. “We are his children,” just as some of your poets have said.” – Acts 17:26-28

            We are ALL God’s children, and He is not far from any one of us.

        • William k says:

          I think the best thing to do is to get a buddy. That may sound alarmingly scarey but it may be the best way. See, it’s your discomfort to talk about your problem that will save you. You should have your buddy frequently ask you if you watched porn. You won’t want to tell him “yes” so you’ll slowly stop. Also remember that just as God doesn’t want you to sin, once it’s done, He forgives and WANTS TO COMFORT YOU! Don’t reject him. Also pray, and if Catholic, as I, receive Eucharist and Reconciliation. I Wish you and all others the best of luck! (And Gods Grace!)
          PS. This method can be used for masturbation too I’m sure.

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