How to talk about my new life in Jesus to “old friends”

I have been feeling like i need to tell a few old friends that I have made a decision to give all of my life to Jesus. I’m not sure how to tell them. One in particular was a good friend and we drank beer together, smoked weed, hunted together, we spent lots of time together. He cusses like a sailor, and still enjoys doing all the other things to. Since my lifestyle has changed I’ve hardly spoke to him, he probably wonders whats wrong with me. I don’t want to avoid him, but I have just because I knew the Lord has been asking me to talk about whats changed in my life.
I’m not sure how to witness to him. I’m still so full of questions and problems myself i don’t know what to say.
I would appreciate some advice. thanks.

What do YOU think?



  1. dresserandkeeper says:

    I just talked to one of my “old friends” I told him simply that I had made the decision to live my life for the Lord now. I told him he was still welcome to come by and visit (if he cusses I’ll have to ask him to stop now). I shared with him a testimony of how God was blessing me. It wasn’t near as bad as I thought it would be. Hehe, it wasn’t bad at all actually and I feel much better. I’m not sure if I sowed good seeds or not, I suppose that is up the the Lord.
    I also didn’t really push him to do anything, I just shared with him the changes in my life that have taken place.

    Thanks for the good advice here everyone.

    And Beloved I know what you mean, I have seen people backslide from trying to influence old friends and then they become influenced instead. I will be careful, thanks for the warning. I don’t have any desire to go back. If anything I’m impatient for growth in the Lord.

    thanks again everyone!

    • Congratulations on taking a step forward! Each step forward in Christ empowers us to take bolder steps in the future!

    • Timothy Luke says:

      You sowed good seed Richard. We just don't know the soil yet. The Sower sowed and it was not his responsibility where it fell – just put it out there and let God do the rest. In judging ground worthy of sowing or not, we may withhold seed from the good soil and a soul will not find grace because we missed it.

    • I’m so proud of you!!! What was your friends reaction? Most of my ‘old friends” are in California (I am in the great state of Texas) Anyway I am connected to them by face book,I would love to post my testimony there, and if they unfriend me,Oh well. I have hesitated,wanting to say the “right thing”But like our bros&sis
      pointed out I’m not the one responsible for their salvation,just telling what happened in my life. 🙂
      Anyway, Way to go!!

      • dresserandkeeper says:

        I thought he reacted well.
        He said, ” that’s cool, nothin wrong with that”, and just kinda kept repeating that, and that it was good. He also said we all gotta do what we feel is right for ourselves sorta thing.
        Then he said he had to get off the phone cause he was at the bar and going in to have a beer with a buddy.
        It feels good to be single minded more than anything if that makes sense. Now I don’t need to wear two different faces depending on who I’m around like I was. That is a relief. I have been feeling “relief” in many areas of my life lately.
        Perhaps the word is deliverance not relief…

        Praise God!

  2. Dear Dresserandkeeper,
    You have already received good council on how to share your faith,so I’m not going there.I do want to point out a danger though.
    Make sure that the “nudge” you are feeling is indeed from the Spirit of God.
    If what you are hearing is pressuring, rushing, or making you feel condemned for not sharing your new life,I would hesitate to ascribe that to the Holy Spirit.
    I have seen many well intentioned Christians,wanting to tell”old friends” about their salvation get sucked back into their old lifestyle. It happens very slowly.With small compromises,but you really think “If I just hang around maybe some of my new life will rub off on my friend”. But, the Word of God says just the opposite. 1Cr 15:33 Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”
    I am not saying this is true of your situation,and I am certainly not saying to not share your faith(God forbid) I am only cautioning you to the possibility that the enemy could set a trap,and just want want you to be aware! (’cause I care 🙂 ! )

    • bornagainbytheblood says:

      Yes, one should be very careful. I am not suggesting for a Saint of God to hang out with sinners, as the Word declares “Be ye separate” and “Come out from among them”. I am merely pointing out that a converted life is a strong testimony to those who are lost. Whether or not one should revisit old acquaintances or situations, well, that is solely the job of the Holy Spirit and His bidding; if so, then that’s when holy boldness is needed to carry it out. Let’s all pray for holy boldness to carry out the Lord’s will in all matters!

      • joshua kent says:

        I have to ask in response of someone posting that a saint of God should not hang out with sinners: What did Christ do? Did he not mingle amongst the wicked and the sinners of that day?

        Mat 9:13 But go ye and learn what that meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice: for I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.

        Kind of hard to share the Gospel if you are not among the sinners, or the world. The passage about being separate from the world is speaking of being spiritually separate from the world, not going out and sharing christ with it. Just because I become saved does not mean I have to shun everyone that isn’t saved. How will that affect the ministry, the faith, or the brethren? How can my light shine to all mankind if I only share the Gospel to the brethren on Sunday Service?

        Should we live like the world? No. Can we live in the world? Yes. Keep yourselves pure and always keep the faith live in the world, not like the world.

  3. It does sound like the Lord wants you to share some things with your ‘old’ friend. What’s important to realize is if the Holy Spirit is asking you to do something, it’s important to do it. If you’re feeling a little ‘uncomfortable’ about it, then ask the Lord for further understanding or instruction on what He’s asking you to do and how to go about it. Sometimes the Lord may not share with you all the details you feel you need to know, but will at least get you in the direction He’d like you to take for His purposes. As long as you’re obeying Him to do what He’s asked of you to do, then know that that pleases Him and that’s what is important most of all.
    There are many things that the Lord may be doing in this process, but one thing I do know for sure is He’s allowing an opportunity for both of you to grow in your walk with Him. For your friend, it’s a seed to be planted into His life. For you, it may help you increase some areas of healing He’d like you to experience in this, strengthening in your faith, listening to the Holy Spirit’s leading, and discerning properly (many great things the Lord can get out of this for you and your friend). Just ask the Lord as you go along in the process, what He’d like you to speak about throughout the conversation (and this can be given step by step as you’re actually conversing or prior to having the conversation). As long as you follow the Lord through the experience you’ll see how both of you can be blessed spiritually whether it may be seen immediately or not. Experiencing through trials is always a great teaching mechanism for the Lord in helping us grow into being all that He wants us to be in Him.

  4. bornagainbytheblood says:

    Richard – I’ll be praying for the Lord to grant you holy boldness to speak those things which Jesus has done for you. Your conversion is a good testimony for sinners to hear, though they may not understand it; but, one day, it may register in their hearts and minds to lead them to repentance.

    While we want everyone to repent now, it’s important to remember that people are in different places in their lives, so patience is a quality we all should possess when dealing with sinners. We were all foolish at one time or another in our lives when we walked according to the course of this fallen world, but the Lord was gracious to save us. Likewise, perhaps the Lord will be gracious to them too in due time. We can leave an impression on sinners by how we live and conduct our lives; whether it benefits them or not, it is still something they can’t help but to acknowledge.

  5. faithishearing says:

    That feeling might be a nudge from the Holy Spirit.
    From the sound of your post it seems like you’ve lost contact with your old friend. You don’t know what could be happening in his life right now. He could be ripe to receive the Word of God. He could be searching. I know many people in my own life, who, though they never knew it, was a large impact on my decision for Christ, some even total strangers, or people I haven’t talked to in years.
    Don’t be discouraged if he doesn’t seem to receive Jesus right away. The same thing happened with me, but boy, months, and even years later those words that were spoken to me stayed with me, and when that time of decision came, I remembered them, and I accepted Jesus Christ as my Savior and Lord.
    Don’t wait until you have ‘arrived’ spiritually as a Christian before you share your personal testimony. It is like that imaginary number on the scale, it’ll never happen, as long as you are a christian, you will be aware of your inadequacies, that is why we need Jesus.
    I have a feeling you already know what to do, just go do it, and know that God will be right there with you guiding your words. You should definitely pray before and continue to pray for your friend.
    Philemon 1:6
    That the communication of thy faith may become effectual by the acknowledging of every good thing which is in you in Christ Jesus.
    Funny thing, the night before I was just studying personal evangelism (with my group) and felt convicted about sharing more and sharing the faith.

    God Bless you!

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