God Restored my Marriage

My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible……but with Almighty God…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE……

I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world….I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was.

I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out….no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse.
I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise….but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation.

Today is March 16th 2011…. My husband of 1yr and 5monts left me on November 30th 2010….BUT….all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead.

As far as I could see we were the perfect couple……went out together…….stayed home together……laughed, joked……..we were like two peas in a pod……of course we had our regular marital problems….no marriage is perfect……..in addition to the above we also…..argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words…….LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE……it isn’t right but it happens…..

In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him……you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement……and I mean short….lasting no more that a few minutes…..my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life…….

All this happened on Nov 30th 2010…..I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm…..he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage…..ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex….it was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with.

The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010….I called him…..he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life….that I should never call or text him again……..that was like a dagger through my heart……I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly…..but that isn’t the worse yet…..

I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice……I felt frightened even listening to him……he told me….I NEVER LOVED YOU……I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED…..I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE…..I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN…..THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD”FRIEND……I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE…..I’M NOT COMING BACK…….

I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life……..it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember that GOD does exists.
I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God…..well God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable….and he got mine.
I cried DAILY AND HOURLY……I felt all hope was gone….I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all…..YOU CANT….BUT GOD CAN……
I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone……I felt like I lost the better part of me…..I couldn’t eat….I couldn’t eat ….I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work…..but God had a plan…….even though all seemed lost……God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting…..what the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good.
I enlisted the help of three persons…….a Prophetess an Apostle and a church Pastor…..these were all spiritual people I knew……and strong men and women of God……I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed.
I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband…..I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY…..I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus.
Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers wasn’t as flowing as other people but everyday I gain more and more strength and my faith began to soar…..I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared……I asked God to send Godly people in his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me….
I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage…warfare….prayer…you name it ….every website I could think of…….. And I just wrapped my husband up and prayed what ever pray I could even verbatim from some of those same books…….I became like a one man army…..
At times the devil whispered in my ears and un belief and doubt settled in….I would call my pray warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours I would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my boo ..
To make a long story short……Sunday January 16th 2011….I got a text from my husband….who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011…..told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life.
He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house….he wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our marriage…
I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something….but I thought it would be perhaps a Hi hello…how are you….or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something……….I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day….that instant…..
He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday….he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do……..he said from the time he said that everything just went crazy…..everything he saw reminded him of me…..when he went to sleep him dreams were constant replays of our life together…..he started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous…..
In short…..God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much…..
He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.
I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like….it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning……..we plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD..
DO NOT GIVE UP….THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON…LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE…HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU…..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO…..THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW…..DO NOT LISTEN……even in your tears….cry out to God….when you don’t know what to say…..just say JESUS….nothing more…….tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out…..
This isn’t every single detail of what happened there are parts missing…but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous…but I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE…

Be encouraged

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  1. Hi Crystal! How can I get in touch with you? What’s your email?.. Thanks

  2. girlstandingbyfaith says:

    This message has given me hope to keep standing for the restoration of my 5 year relationship with my ex boyfriend. Thank You Crystal!

  3. Thank you for the encouragement..I am equally going through a rough time with my fiance and as at now we not speaking.I admit my mistake and apologised.I know my good GOD will surely come through for me…

    • Hey N :)….

      God will indeed come through for you….he has done it for me and countless ppl whose situation seemed beyond repair …….

      You took the first step and that is an excellent way to start……you admitted you made a mistake and you asked for forgiveness:)…..

      With the above steps put in place and the King of Kings by your side….you have a winning combination right there :))))).

      You said fiance so I’m thinking marriage……another great and bold step my friend….God honors the step that you’re making…..he loves family and he loves the both of you like crazy…..

      It’s not only marriages that are blessed by God….it the start as well….like where you guys are at now…..you put him at the center of you relationship and see how he is able to turn things around for you..

      Don’t ever give up….commit everything to him and he WILL work it out….you dont have to know how or when….just trust and believe that HE IS NOT EVER GOING TO LET YOU DOWN hun :))

      Let me know how it works…dont forget 🙂

      Be encouraged and stay blessed

  4. arkavinash says:

    Im so happy today. Like i mentioned before that me and my girlfriend were and still are going through problems but last week she decided not to talk to me or even see me ever again but today all by the grace and power of God i was able to meet her, talk to her and spend some time with her and i came to know that she is been missing me a lot and that she really loves me but she still cant forget the past and is not able to forgive me. Im thankful to God because he is the reason that we are getting back together again and he just started and i know he will finish it. So anyone going through any problems know that when you approach God victory will be surely yours and dont give up because nothing is impossible for God……. 🙂

    • Wwwwwoooooowwwwwwiiiieeeee………….LOLOLOL……well look at you :)))))……Praise God from whom ALL blessings flow 🙂

      I’m so happy for you….this is the beginning of a happy ending……God has broken through for you..

      Listen to me…..take it slow…dont force anything…..I remember you told me the initial break up was your fault so she’s still going to be hurting from whatever happend eh :(…..yes she’s still going to have doubts and you’re going to have to let her know that you’ve learned your lesson and that you’re sorry for what you did and re-assure her that it will never happen again…

      You would not be able to soften her heart….only God can and he will because he knows the pain and hurt you went through due to what you did….he knows you’ve repented and you’re sorry 🙂

      Do no rush her….get to know each other again and always reassure her of your love….Let God be in every decision you make from now onward…..speak to him regularly and ask his opinion I promise you he will show you what he wants you to see…..

      Put your entire life and that of your girl in HIS hands….let the only third party be HIM……keep outside influences OUT……..

      He who has begun a good word is faithful to complete it……God is going to finish this 🙂

      • Sorry I meant “he who has begun a good WORK”…..LOL….what can I say….I’m a pefectionist 🙂

        Be blessed

  5. Thank you for your testimony. I am going through a similar thing and am praying and praying and praying, having bought all the books too :).
    Satan is always whispering and casting doubt.
    Please pray for me and my children who are hurting so much.

    • Hi my darling 🙂

      Do whatever you need to do to keep believing….I did it all…books…movies (there is a great movie called FireProof)…..internet research…..you name it I did it……..
      God is is going to show up and show off in your situation my friend….I’m telling you…..look at what he did for me!!!……

      It is satan’s job to make you feel hopeless and worthless and he’s gonna back you into a corner…..when you feel that way and you feel like giving up….just same the name of JESUS…..nothing more jus JESUS……
      He know your heart and he feels our pain even when we dont have words to express..

      He’s not going to allow you to suffer all the time…..keep and eye out because any minute now you’re in for a surprise..

      Hold on to him…dont let go…..I promise you he is going to turn your situation around 🙂

      • Thank you for taking the time to respond to me Dequom. I am really trying to walk through the “hopelessness and worthlessness” that I feel at the moment. I am clinging to my faith. I pray this will all end soon so I can sing praises and encourage others in the TRUTH. I am praying for a breakthrough and so so every single day. I so need a break right now. I know it has to be in God’s time, but I am so very tired now and yes, do feel like giving up. Today has been VERY hard for me. I have come here to imerse myself in God.

        • Hun…..I so know what you are going through right now :(((…..I’ve been there and I still remember the feeling oh too well….hmmmmm…….

          The days of not being able to eat, sleep….you dont wanna talk to anyone….you wish you could just make the pain go away……I remember vividly crying so much untill my chest hurt…..I remember screaming and begging God to please just let me go to sleep…..I felt so tired but I just could sleep :(..

          My dearest….I promise you it is going to get better………remember the word says to count yourself lucky when you encounter such trials…..I know it is a bitter pill to swallow….it was for me…..”how could I count myself lucky???”….

          Hmmmm…..Your break through is coming you just hold on a while longer…I promise you…..God see’s your tears and he knows your pain…..you just talk to him….just like you are doing with me know….tell him everything……he knows exactly what is going on but he still want for you to tell him and talk to him…..tell him you want your family back….tell him you love and miss your mate…tell him how incomplete you feel ….how your faith may be failing…..tell him everything and then you release it over to him and let him have his way…….

          You are soon going to walk in his promise….God is not a man that he should lie…..what ever he promise he will perform and even when we dont see anything in the pysical….rest assured something is definetly doing on in the spiritual…..I am here for you and I will continue to lift you up….you just bear a little while longer 🙂

          • Thanks Dequom

            Earlier I spent a good part of half an hour sobbing on the floor of my bathroom (so that my children cant see me) and yes, my chest hurt. You are right, I battle to sleep, I am begging God to take this from me. I am so tired of it all. Just having you here on this site interceeding for me means a lot to me. I am trying to really honour God and put Him first. I just wish he would give me wisdom and clarity to know what His plan definately is for me.

            I praise him for my 3 precious children and their lives and am trying to bring them up as Godly children.

            Not my will Lord Jesus, but yours but please let me know what your will is.

            AMEN

          • I know it hurts hun and I wish I could be there to really hug you through this :(…
            But you be strong….cry it out when you need to and yes….the bathroom was my place too…just where no one could hear me…..

            I know things dont look good now but a window is opening some where….even though you cant see it this minute.

            Just imagine the testimony you’ll have when all of this is over….

            Talk to some-one….someone that would also lift you and your children and marriage up in prayer….not just anyone cause you dont want to have all your business out there…you know what info like this can be in the wrong hands.

            Do something for me girl…….I want tonight….maybe you did it already maybe you didnt….but do this….

            Go to your bed tonite….when the kids are asleep….turn down the volume on the TV and kneel before your bed…..TALK TO GOD AGAIN……yes do that….

            Tell him Lord I know you know what’s going on and I know we’ve had this conversation before but Father I really need you to stregthen me…..I cant do this on my own and I dont know what to do…..I need to hear your voice…I feel like your are so far from me and I want to be close to you……

            You tell him in your own words how you feel……when you are finished tell him to take this burden from you….tell him you dont want to carry it anymore and you hand it over to him……tell him how you want to hear his voice and feel his comforting arms…..you talk to him…..everything I’m telling you now I had to do and he came through for me…..sweetheart weeping may endure for the night but joy comes in the morning…..

            This is your night time but light is going to break thru soon…….sometimes when you dont know what to say….just whisper the name of Jesus….that’s all…..expecially at night when yu cant sleep…..just say Jesus…repeat that name and you would see…..even for that that moment he’ll lift every burden and everycare from you….

            It’s not going to be easy I know but rest assure that God isnt going to leave you and he wouldnt forsake you and neither will I……you just stalk whenever you need to and soon all this would just be a memory….soon you’ll be able to give your own testimony of how God rebuilt and restored for you 🙂

  6. Hey Faith…..

    Thank you so much for your comment 🙂

  7. arkavinash says:

    God is great and reading your story gives me hope for my relationship too. I’m going through similar situations like you but im not married. I love this girl and we have been in a relationship but it was me who was at fault which messed the relationship and now it is in a point where everything seems hopeless. But just as you showed me anything is possible to God and i hope and believe that God would heal my relationship too. can you please pray for me too? and if you dont mind can you help me please..

    • Hey Ark……what’s up man:)…

      You know….sometimes we are made to think that as it relates to relationships that God only hear those based on marriages and we can only expect God to move if it is a marrige….

      As ppl and ministers, sometimes we forget where those same marriages didnt just drop from the sky…..that they didnt just come to be…..that every marriage starts with a relationship and that relationship is what sets the ground work for every marriage.

      Even in our courting stages, we need so much to have God involved and he also wants so much to be involved….he wants it to be you…your mate and HIM at the very beginning….

      Ark …where there is life there is hope my friend….and NOTHING….I mean NOTHING….is impossible for our God to do……the devil is going to put in your mind stuff like” Oh you really did it now…..there’s nothing anyone can do to get help you out” or “She’s surly gone for good now and it doesnt make sense praying”……Boy let me tell you……God is going to do it for you……the messier the better…..the more fetched the better………

      Satan is going to play with your mind….but you continue to pray…..and begin now to thank God that he has done it for you and trust me….HE WILL NOT LET YOU DOWN……

      We all make mistakes…Lord Knows I did but look at the mess I was in…you dont even know the half of it….my our God did it for me and he will for you….so dont give my my brother…the storm is almost over 🙂

      • arkavinash says:

        Thank you so much. Thank you it was like God spoke to me thru u. Thank You

        • Ark…you so so welcome my friend….I will continue to lift you and your mate up in pray and I look forward soon to your email saying that God has indeed done it for you….I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he will….you just hold on and keep trusting…….even when doubt creeps into your mind do like the man in the bible that said “Lord I believe…but help this my unbelief”…:)

          Keep ya head up buddy 🙂

          • arkavinash says:

            You know its so amazing. Today was a really bad day for me but i thank God for what he had done for me. I went to meet my girl friend but it turned out in a negative way but i thank God for giving me the opportunity to see her and it was so bad and all kinds of doubt kept creeping in my mind and even i doubted my own faith, asking myself if what i was having was even faith or belief. I didnt know what to do and i wanted to contact you and try to get help from you but i couldnt. I was depressed when I got home and i came on here and saw your message and it uplifted me. Thank You for being there for me and all that you are doing for me and Praise God.

  8. faithishearing says:

    God is the Restorer of all things!
    Blessing on you and on your marriage!

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