Is my fiancee right for me?

Hi. I am a Christian. My fiancee is a believer in God. I have prayed for this answer, but i am just needing some help. I have been seeing my fiancee for 9years. I love him very much. We have been engaged 4years now, with hardly any chance of getting married, he wants to move intogether 1st. I am 25 and know i have to make my dissision now for i cannot wait forever. I dont want to force marriage and for him to have regrets or worse. And to talk about marriage to him is out of the question. However a few weeks after his christian friend got married, he said yes to marriage, for he said its what God would want, i was the happiest girl in the world, my prayers were answered. Then a few weeks later, he said he didnt mean it, he didnt know what he was thinking..To leave him is very hard, are relationship has fell apart. I care for him. I cannot see any option but to leave him? Any advice would be appricated. Thanks