Divorce and letting go

My husband had had a 4 year affair. He is not saved. When I found out I was devastated and begged him to stay for at least 6 month without contacting the Other Woman. He stayed but did not stop seeing her. Long story short, he left me 2 years ago and has been living with her. I prayed and prayed and prayed for God to restore my marriage. We are in the process of divorcing but my husband wont settle – he wants to take our home from me (and our three children) and to pay minimal child support. The court ordered him to pay a reasonable child support and this incurred his wrath and now he wants to sell our home. I have been in limbo for a year now with this going on and not being settled. He wont BUDGE. I am now fasting and praying for God to soften his heart for him to let us go as this is simply too much for us. I mean he is living with the other woman (who divorced her husband for mine). I just am growing weary now as I dont see anything moving.

Also I am lonely. My pastor has told me that I cant have any relationships as I am still legally married. I did meet someone but we have agreed to not move forward (and have cut contact – so there will be no temptation) but I feel I am living in limbo.

I have prayed for God to break this stronghold over me as I cant go on anymore. 4 years has been too much and I just find myself, praying, fasting, drawing near to God but still waiting for a miracle.

I know it is “in God’s time” but I am broken and battling.

Does God want me to just sign what my husband has proposed when it would negatively accept my children or do I wait?

What do YOU think?



  1. Let’s keep trusting God for s solution to marriages. We need to pray for marriages.

  2. We serve God who promises that He will never leave us nor forsake us. I know from experience how it feelsvto be cheated by the man you loved and divorced with no valid reasons but to opt for another one. God is not pleased with divorce and I’m glad that I HEAR YOU NEVER INITIATED and not the source of the act. God honours that. Just stay in the Lord for he says that you need to fear not for He shall fight for you. Exodus 14:14.
    Remain blessed. Your in my prayers.

  3. Remember God is always in control, whatever you may go through,he knows and has a plan. The bible says ‘ all things work together for good for those who love the Lord’ Believe that and you will know that as much as it might be difficult now and you are asking why as long as you remain in the Lord you will go through this.

    You are in my paryers

  4. Thank you for both your comments. I am waiting on a specific word from God right now and fasting while I do. Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. I know I am not alone in this.

    • Natasha Vencatsamy says:

      We serve a AWESOME GOD OF MIRACLES.If you say that you are fasting,there will be a break through coming your way.Our Father in heaven is faithful and merciful like that.Hold fast to your faith.Don’t give up hope,He will see you through this tough time.You need to stay holy and pure in order for the Lord to perform His miracles.Its says in the word of God.Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you.Your mind is a battle field.Your heart and your mind are connected.Your heart is connected to the throne room of heaven.The Bible tells us that God alone knows our hearts,yet when the thoughts come to our mind,it can either be from Satan or from the Lord.Decern the voices you hear.Cancel and destroy the negative thoughts that comes in.Every morning when you awake,Give thanks and praise,worship Him and rest in Him.Your time in the desert will soon be over.Never stop believing that you are alone,for He said that He will never leave nor forsake you.Be blessed with the LOVE ,JOY,and PEACE that passes all understanding.

      • Thanks Natasha. I have just reread your post as I am battling today and so have come here for “topping up”. I am fasting and will continue to do so…I am trying to seek God in everything I do and am drawing close to him. Thank you for the bit about the heart and the mind. I have been begging God to tell me what is His voice in my mind and what is Satan’s voice in my mind as I get so confused. I choose to believe it is God’s word but then when things dont work out, I know it was not – because God’s word does not return to him empty. From day to day I just dont know what to do. It is good to see that God alone can see our heart – but how is our heart different to our minds?

        I so need a miracle and a massive breakthrough.


  5. teshomey says:

    I am very sorry to read about what you have been going through. I am not certain about what decisions you should make right now; but, I know that we have a God who delivers us even when everything seems impossible. I am believing with you that a solution is on its way. You will be in my prayers.

    In Christ,


  6. faithishearing says:

    I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I have no straight answers for you. I will pray that God gives you wisdom and guidance in this situation. I am certain that He will work out everything for you as you continue to trust and believe Him for the answers. God will honor you for your obedience and commitment to Him. He has seen your situation and heard your prayers, and will act in your behalf. Remember in the Bible when God’s children were in dire situations, and God always showed up for them. I think about the children of Israel being in slavery in Egypt for a long time. Remember what God told Moses? He said that He had seen their suffering and was concerned about them. Exodus 3:7.
    Continue to grow in the grace of the Lord and look to Him for comfort during this time. He will act in His time. He will show you what to do.
    1 Corinthians 2:9
    However, as it is written: “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what God has prepared for those who love him”–
    I’m praying for you.
    God Bless You!

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