1 Corinthians 7:13-14: Unsaved Spouses?

Last night at church there were a number of women who were grieving the fact their husbands had not made a commitment to Christ. This brought to mind 1 Corinthians 7:13-14

1Co 7:13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

Here are some scriptures and understanding that came at that time.

When a man is pleased to dwell with his saved wife he is sanctified by the faith of the wife. We are saved by faith. Those two being one in God’s eyes means the faith of the wife is imputed to the husband. This is an amazing and challenging concept. In the Old Testament when clean and unclean met, the result was the clean became unclean.

In the new, [now that we are sanctified by the blood of Jesus and not that of animals perhaps] the unclean husband is made clean by the faith of the wife. How, or why, can this be?

Jesus said, “in as much as you have done it unto one of the least of these my disciples, you have done it unto me.” Is it possible that God counts a man who is faithful to his wife as being faithful to meeting His needs?

One thing is sure. Paul was sold on teaching that the children of a believer are sanctified and the union that brought them forth is also clean. The best explanation of what this means for the unbeliever is this. If they are faithful in doing what they know to do for their mate it will be accounted to them as unto the Lord. If they are married to, but despise their mate, will the same be accounted to them? God knows.

This knowledge should encourage and liberate husbands and wive’s from the drivenness to get their partner saved before they die. Salvation is God’s work and the best way given a woman to save her husband is through her meek and humble conduct, which does not require a salvation message to be preached.

Please, share your thoughts and experiences on this.

Tim Reinagel

What do YOU think?



  1. Matt1078 says:

    Verses 13, 14 need to be read in the context of the whole statement

    1Co 7:12-17
    12) But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
    13) And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
    14) For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
    15) But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
    16) For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
    17) But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.

    Paul is teaching people that were already married before he (Paul) went to Corenth.
    He preached the Gospel, and some got saved, those are the ones he is teaching at this point.
    Some are now living in a relationship where their wives, or husbands did not get saved.
    Paul is telling them that as long as their unbelieving spouse is pleased to live with them, there marriage is sanctified as holy in the eyes of God, otherwise their children would be unclean.
    In Paul’s own words, the “Unbelieving Spouse is Sanctified by the Believing Spouse.”
    Paul then goes on in his teaching by saying, that if the unbelieving spouse leaves the relationship, then the believing spouse is not bound by the laws, and vows of that marriage.
    Because we do not know if the unbelieving spouse will ever come to the Lord.

    Paul teaches in the previous chapter what our relationships should be with non believers.
    2Co 6:14
    Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

    Amos says this
    Amo 3:3
    Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

    We can then take both of these last verses to mean, a Christian should not ever marry a non believer.

    Lastly, as far as having a spouse in heaven, Jesus was asked this question, His answer was.
    Mat 22:29,30
    29) Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God.
    30) For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.

    • SwiftHorse says:

      If your one of those people seeking the truth from God, and not mankind, and your lucky enough that God wants you to see the truth, then your going to be placed in situations like them, to recieve the same inspired word from God. So like when God had me go speak to some people, mainly because i ask him if i should, he showed me that i should go with them to see what they had to tell me. To make a long story short, i basically knew that everyone like myself had died, anyone who was shown the inspired word of God. When i went with these people and found out that there were others who had lived later outside the dates of the bible, who basically had the same things happen to them i did, but not just baically, identicle to me. The face to face part i guess, but also reminded me of Jesus who was seen in a vision speaking to Moses, and Elijah. I could understand what that was, because of being placed in the same situation, and seeing for myself the same triangulation of purpose. It really confirmed that God was showing me the truth, and i wasnt just another nut. That was a relief. Over time it was all of them, to understand the interpretation of the bible.

      I will share with you some of what i do know. When it was said to die daily, you have to understand that unless you are allowed to do it, it cant be understood. To die, is to have God speak to you. You must die, but you wont fall over because God is in control, taking all control away from you. You will be very dead though. God brings you back to life, and as the blood rushs back into your brain, there is a tingling feeling no different than having your arm fall to sleep. Then God speaks, normally from a bible you have near by, so you can have some conformation that it was God. Now he can speak from any bible, but that depends on the interpretation of that bible. Its not the bible that needs the interpretation its us. When God spoke the last time, he said ” you are free to marry whoever you choose” the greek translation unfortunatley just happend to include after that “even him who is in heaven”. Now knowing what i know see God as a example and therfore i couldnt do anything he couldnt do, but its what he permits me to do. It wasnt just God he wasnt just talking about himself in heaven. Pluse we have to die to show the rezerection, a baptism effect. But all that goes in the same line as what Jesus was talking about in the temple, as there are two sides to it. What is for God, and what is for mankind. And something being amiss about what scripture Jesus was refering to. Mankind can give any interpretation to that.

      Paul himself mentions baptism for the dead coming from the same line of speach as Jesus in the temple, this was definatley something heard at the time, from people who practiced something along that line being reflected onto them. Thats why it is mentioned in the bible. But if we are seekers, and God permits the translation to come forth, these things being brought to us by people wont be inspired as such. There being a difference between asking God how to believe, and trying to do what is right, then having God show you, and trying to defend yourself from evil. Evil doesnt want Gods things here, the devil doesnt want you to know. The things of God are not of this world, and we can not understand God or his thoughts unless he shows it to someone. As Jesus said, his kingdom is not of this earth, and give to ceaser what is ceasers, and to God what is Gods. There being two seperate things when Jesus speaks in the temple, and the reason he says what he does.

      People can interpret the bible however they wish, and fool so many its not funny. But the examples shown within the bible, is that of the example of intention by the user of the bible. There being a natural thought pattern from one thing to another reading the bible and asking God, and for a good person who honestley wants to know, God show it. The bible is designed for people who seek salvation from God, it doesnt say salvation from mankind. People can change the words, but God tricked them, because its by example of a honest person. Though i do understand that people can be fooled, and there are plenty of fools out there for God that have good intentions just like those wanting to know about God, but they didnt get there answers from God, they got their answers from somone elses idea of what it should be like.

      Peace and Love in Jesus.

      • warrior daughter says:

        “your lucky enough that God wants you to see the truth”

        God does not use luck & He wants ALL to know the truth…
        You shall know the truth & the truth shall set you free..John 8:32
        Truth is a important part of the Word of God. It sets free, sanctifies, (John 17:17,18,) purifies (I Peter 1:22) & establishes (Ephesians 4:15) the person..
        “you are free to marry whoever you choose”

        Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with LAWLESSNESS? And what communion has light with DARKNESS? And what accord has Christ with BELIAL (Satan)? Or whar part has a believer with an UNBELIEVER? And what agreement has the temple of God with IDOLS? For you are the temple of the Living God… As God has said:”I will dwell in them & walk among them. I will be their God, & they shall be my people. Therefore Come out from among them & be seperate, says the Lord. DO NOT touch what is unclean & I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, & you shall be My sons & daughters, says the Lord Almighty.” 2 Coritnians 6:14-18
        “People can change the words, but God tricked them”

        If you think God uses trickery (fraud, guile, deceit ect.), then you are not seeing God correctly…He does not use any of the tools of Satan or man to get people to believe in Him or to obey Him.

        For My thoughts are not your thoughts nor are your ways My ways” says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways & My thoughts than your thoughts…Isaiah 55:8,9

        • SwiftHorse says:

          Well, I think Satan knew God, and he knew Jesus. And i think if Satan knew by killing off Jesus it would save us, i really dont think he would have done it. So there had to be something withheld from what was known, expecially from evil. By playing into the nature of death knowing evil, we win to the rezerection. You would expect good to be good, and evil, evil to their part, but they are not. Didnt God tell Moses to kill all those people? why? were they evil, going against Gods word? But according to God we shouldnt kill, unless its by his word? So God can do what God does, in order to overcome evil? I think he did the same thing with Noah, killed all those people and saved Noah and his family. Why? maybe because noah was willing to do what God wanted. Does God consider those who do what he wants good and rightous? And all those who do not evil? So we being his children do what he wants, not what evil people want, meaning he is a living being, and can be heard. So we listen to him alone. God knowing the hearts of mankind does choose to do things according to how they will work out in the future, even to do something intentional to not be seen, or to fool everyone. The wisdom of man is nothing but foolishness to God. Thats because its not a matter of how smart anyone thinks they are, its a matter of doing what God wants. Something intentionally hidden, to hide, to fool, and to be told to do so by God is rightous. Elijah the prophet hid and didnt face his enemy untill God wanted him to. It wasnt Elijahs choice. Nore was it Moses choice, or Jesus choice, it was Gods choice. God will overcome evil in whatever way he deems, because the rules dont apply to those who dont follow them, meaning evil wont follow the rules. Your right though, God doesnt force anyone, they have to be willing to listen. So what that means is that people may not be listening that believe they are. Because of the death and rezerection, because of wanting to obey God, we become Baptized, and being dead, and having been rezerected do understand that marrige and baptism are not seperate things.

          Peace and love in Jesus.

  2. SwiftHorse says:

    From experaince with my own life, and seeing others, i can say with certainty that we are not to be married to a unbelieving spouse. I myself, and others i know who were born again christians, do love with the love of God, and most of us do not swear, or cheat, and we see life in a hole new way. People who stay married to unbelievers will change back, its only a matter of time. The devil works this to its full potential, and eventually will cause that believer to change back because of the feeling it doesnt matter to anyone else. The effects of the spouse will also effect the children because they will believe they have a choice in the matter, so eventhough God hates divorce, it better to leave and remarry a believer. Some people believe the bible is giving a choice in the matter, but thats not what it is saying. Our service is to the Lord, and we cant serve both, because we will be serving our spouse who is not a believer, to make them happy.

    When the old prophets tought, they tought the basics first, that was, that men were created in Gods image, meaning we not only have a physical form, but that our mind is a copy of his too. We men being born with a set standard of discovery, and mind development. Growing up and learning by sight what other can do, we duplicate those things. What makes every man a little different is their choices in how they do things, because of the type of body we are born into. One man may do thing in a easy way because he is limited by his body, while another can choose to be a muscle head. So that gives the illusion we are different. With women and their purpose, their minds are set up differentley, so men and women have a lot of problems when they get close, because the communication used between women, is different than the communication used between men. This can be confusing when trying to decide if a potential mate is good or not.

    When after this was learned, the next thing tought was how feelings drive someone. This because if a man does the same thing as another man, for the same reasons of desire, they will eventually come to the same idea, and do the same things, which leads to the same results. So if a man desires that he is not worthy to stand before God, and ask anything, but wishs to learn from God, they recieve the same experaince and recieve what is commonly called the born again experaince. This after they have seen others who have achieved this, plus the forgiving factors, and trust issues. I have not noticed where one church does any better at this than another. Though it does normally stop there, with pastorships, but isnt supposed to stop having achieved this. Thats because those individuals want to learn, and spend a lot of time reading and study, and dont reason out the bible in the context to ask God questions. When God accepts you as a child, he reasons you should act like one, and ask. This concept comes from our own nature as men, we would know thats what God wants.

    Whats in the eyes, goes to the heart, and whats in the heart, comes out of the mouth. Thats desire. When people have desire they look to find that, and if that reasoning is to find what God wants, along with prayer, God shows this to them because they asked and they are showing desire, in other words putting work into it. The Holy Spirit shows the answer, this is the gifts God gives to those who ask him, and directley related to the gifts of the spirit. The most common use of the Holy Spirit is within the gifts of a church, when that time comes, though is not its original intent. The Holy Spirit is for overcoming the world, which the devil runs to keep us from being saved.

    The old prophets tought that you were not saved unless God showed you and this meant that litterally Through the Holy Spirit, God lead you to salvation. This also means that God would have to know the hearts of men, and not just anyone got to be saved. No the devil can not sit in church with you, no different than not being married to a unbeliever. Church is supposed to be a sanctuary seperating his people. If God is not the leader through Christ our savior, then no one can agree, and there will always be unbelievers among the church people trying to save them and they will never know if they will or not. Only God knows. Unbelievers have a different agenda.

    The old propehts would teach about example, living life as a living example to others who look upon you. This does not include doing miracles, miracles are not a example of being Good, or being rightous. Miracles are from looking for answers from God, and is based on a personal relationship with God, and is the faith of the individual, and not the work of a saint. If God speaks to you, would you expect everyone in the room to hear him too? No they wouldnt because they would not be doing that, and wouldnt be accounted as worthy. Multaple people may hear God at the same time, if they are doing something in joint effort while looking for a answer from God. The reason the new testement was written is because it uses Christ as the example, the example meaning having a heart that desires what God wants. This same example also shows how to be saved for anyone who puts themselves in a simular situation. So if you were to be whiped and beaten like Christ was for christs sake, duplicating what God wanted, you would figure out that Christ didnt understand how much he changed and was different than everyone else, which helped him to go onto the crusifiction. The crusifiction of Jesus and God pulling his power away from him showed Jesus the sin of the world, and what people had to live under without knowing God. With that Jesus gave up his life. Jesus was put into the boat we are all in, that of a sinner.
    With that respect eventhough we will always be sinners, we dont place ourselves with sinners. Though we go out among them, we also do not do what sinners do, being repentent of our sins, though we are not any better than a sinner. sinners repent because they see a good example, not because they see a rebuking monger.

    The reason for sinning is to learn what not to do, without there being evil, there would not be any good in the world. If we dont experaince it we would never know whats good for us, this is why its so hard for the rich to enter heaven, as they dont feel the misery.

    The old prophets knew the importance of the temple, this was a big part in the new testement. Jesus said he was the life, the light and the way, by example. But also because of the temple, as he was the temple of the living God. Jesus is more or less viewed as God come to earth, but the way i look at it, he was one of us trying to get to heaven too, by obeying God his father and doing what he wanted. He most surley didnt pray to himself. Then there is the matter of being joint hiers with Christ, and being brothers and sister in Christ if he wasnt one of us. Most of what is pondered and tought is because of the lack of prophets, wich does not mean a gift of the Holy Spirit. Jesus was in the temple for one main reason, to show a example. The right kind of example, vs the wrong kind from the Jews that dictated what must be done, but didnt do those things themselves. By having a bad example they actually didnt save anyone and kept people from heaven. Jesus answered the questions asked of him because of the law, as my bible says it to obey the laws of man, we being limited by our own laws, which were different than the laws of God, because the laws of God were meant for a good hearted person looking for God, as Moses would have been, but not all his people were. But the laws of God were also a warning to those who didnt follow them, none believers as to how to treat Gods people.

    God does not change, which can be a contradiction to Jesus death and the change of the covenent held with mankind. Or more with what was done because of sin. Jesus was actually the completion of the law, which demanded a sacrafice. But also in bringing The understanding of the law, which was to bring us closer to God in the first place. So the covenent with God never changed, it was fulfilled and completed as promised by God. So actually As prophets spoke over time, it was always known that Jesus was comming to complete the law. Instead of sacraficing we are baptized by example of what was shown, though didnt change the status of the temple any, it was just changed from sacrafice to baptism. Because God spoke it, so it was created for God, but nothing changed that the temple should no longer exist, and is prophesied to come back into existance. When the temple is spoken of people automatically have an idea that the arch will be placed back in it, but instead isnt what God showed Jesus. When the Keys are mentioned the keys are the keys to the temple, there being a coralation between what we are, and what we do, and thats a temple.

    Whats the definition of a prophet? Someone who does mighty works and signs? Funny Jesus said no signs will be given, So i guess that puts that to rest. I guess Elijah the prophet wont be comming back in force, plus i doubt to many people would be worthy to see that. So it would be hush hush. Plus out of the encouters in the bible, Prophets dont tend to last to long because of how the world is, so i doubt everything being made alright would be public. So what is a prophet? someone who speaks for God? That too. Someone who God has shown something to? Most likley that too. Someone who God speaks to? Most definatley. Someone who can show a good example of the truth as God would want them to. Yep that to. Someone that could teach well the mysterys of the bible. Yep that to, but more someone you could prophet from.

    Hope that helped some.

    Peace and love in Jesus.

  3. I had a dear friend at church bring up this verse to me so I have started doing my own research and praying in this matter. My friend nows how it tears me apart to think that my husband is headed to an enternity in Hell while I know my life secure in Heaven. My husband is one of most old fashioned persons I have ever known. He had a great deal f conviction and strong moral family values. I have been on both sides of the coin since I am a divorcee and my first husband was a Christian AND prominent memeber of our local church. My first husbandd was not a bad person in any way but was very confused and and caught between the devil and Jesus every day. I know that our marriage was not something that I should have done because of my doubts when he asked me. I was married for just under 2 years before we seperated when I started seeing how was letting the Devil rule over his life in many ways. Now that I have moved on and been with my husband now for almost five years, I know him inside and out and he has more love in his heart and more of a Christian spirit then alot of Christians that I know. When I read those verses about the Christian wife and unbeliveing husband, I couldn’t belive it. I know that everyone is differnet but just as stated above I too choose to believe that God would not bring together a family and seperate them for enternity. With that said I know that I can rest in knowing that God is in control. and it is HIS responsibility to bring him to salvation and not my burden to carry. I will just continue to live my life trying to glorify God the best way that I can and pray for my husband daily. I know that when it is the right time, he will be called and will be saved from enternity in a Devils Hell. I am thankful to have read this verse, and know I know that it is possible for God to have mercy on our beloved spouces.

    Additinally, as far as picking a spouse goes, pray when you think you have meant that special someone and give yourself plenty of time to get to know them. My biggest advise is do not ever settle for anything less than you truely desire . God knows the desires of our hearts and I truly think that his plan for a mate will ultimately be everything that we desire.

  4. I was not saved when I got pregnant. I got saved after the child was born. Can I marry the father of my child, even if he is unsaved. He goes to church with me and is involved, but not yet saved.

    • Timothy Luke says:

      Do you recall how in the old testament, the term, “they wrought confusion in Israel” is used? It is situations like this it is referring to. Yoo are describing how you have done everything wrong, and then are asking, “what is the right thing to do?” This is confusion. Your question sounds like one of the test questions the scribes and pharisees would use on Jesus. Nonetheless, here is how I untangle the question:

      As far as God is concerned, when you look at the old testament, when a man and woman lay together, the man was to take her as his wife immediately and not to shame her. If your ‘husband’ is pleased to dwell with you, then you should marry and keep him your husband in my opinion. Pray for his salvation and live a Godly life as a Christian, that he may see your chaste conduct and be won to the Lord.

  5. claire says:

    1 Corinthians 7 14-17 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.16 For now do you know O wife whether you will save your husband? Or do you know O husband whether you will save you wife?17 But as God has distributed to each one, as the Lord has called each one, so let him walk. And so ordain in all the churches.

    I feel that all of chapter 7 should be read. I discern that God is saying that we do not know they will become saved. Also I see that the sanctification is for the children born into an unequally yoked marriage. That is is actually to benefit the innocent children for the kingdom of God belongs to the such as these. I do not believe that this gift belongs to the rebellious who belong to the kingdom of darkness………. moving on to verse 28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I will spare you.

    The marriage itself is not sin but really God’s word does say For what does light have in common with darkness. Also He says we are not to be unequally yoked. There is a very good reason why we need to take all of God’s word in. He tells us these things in order that we have the fruits of the spirit especially those of peace Love and joy without discention and adversity they come fron an unequally yoked marriage.

    Also in Ephesians 12 about wrestling with darkness and not flesh and blood …….do we really want to do that daily in our households of marriage?…. Putting on the full armor of God is daily ….for me it becomes by the minute…lol..seriously …Also when Christ comes back in Revelations God declares that salvation belong to God and the Lamb . He repeats it that salvation belongs to the Lord so like in the verses of 1 Corinthians Do you know? What about one will taken up and the other left behind?

    Really I could go on and on…..the word tells us enough to say very loud and clear not to become unequally yoked.

    In the case where a husband or wife becomes saved while in the marriage we have an all together different set of circumstance. A co-worker and now sister in the Lord got saved shortly after marrying your long time boyfriend and father of her child. We meet before her marriage and spoke about the Lord and she was so hungry God used her marriage to bring her even closer to Him. Her husband on the other hand was not interested, yes he wanted to be married but the church thing for him was a no go. She has grown very quickly upon her salvation and is now doing the work of the Lord. Her husband is still not saved and she has all the traits and battle of an unequally yoked marriage. Although I see a more supernatural presence of protection over her that I do not have going into an unequally yoked marriage eyes open. I believe is a situation like that God has more mercy ……being a baby christian still our friendship love and prayers that we share we believe will bring a miracle. We do not stand on our salvation gives them a free one ……we stand on we will see them saved by their own choice and by their confessing Christ Jesus as Lord……love in Christ to you all and may your marriages be blessed by God Almighty

  6. I am writing this as a word of advice to those who may be choosing to marry an unbeliever. No matter how much you may love the person…..remember you love with the heart of God……You are truly better to get out of the relationship and mourn the loss and not marry the unsaved.

    Unfortunately I am married to an unbeliever who professed to be a believer. Although I knew in my heart that something was off, He was quite convincing along with charm and not hard to look at I fell in love with him. We married 7 months after meeting for a rush wedding due to the fact that His father was ill and dying. What was good took a turn quickly……….God told me not to marry Him by the way….it was all set in motion already, we were moving to care for his father ……a distant move. I couldn’t back out then could I or maybe I should have seeked God earlier….or was it cold feet……no God spoke to me and said DO NOT MARRY HIM!……clearly…..Hence I disobeyed.

    Now I am sad to say that I am reaping what I have sown…..Satan knew exactly the tactic to keep me from the ministry I was doing and finding out the truth after you have said I DO…..can change the course quickly. The unbeliever is legal ground for Satan and his posse ……he controls the mind of the unbeliever because that is who they are haering from.

    Now I know that Our all knowing God knows what we will do before doing it and that He can turn the bad into good……..a note of caution ….in His timing….which means that the strife of darkness and light becomes almost unbearable …….even to the point of violence and death in some cases………Satan seeks to destroy us ….. He hates us and will use our unsaved loved ones to accomplish the assignment ….. I pray for protection daily …after a few very scary battles…..I am leaning that greater is He (My Jesus) that is in me holds true to it’s promise.

    I am now 3 years in and only 2 ways allow me out of the marriage His unfaithfulness…..which he is not ….or if he wants the marriage to end…..which I don’t see happening any time soon….He loves me very much …and when He acts in demonic accord he rarely even remembers it .actually quite interestingly he states that it is not how he wants to be and says it is like something else takes over…… I believe him.

    I am learning quite a bit about spiritual warfare and even high level warfare through this trial……tough lesson…. my prayer is that God will use this for mighty things for His Glory….. I am a child of God…thats that….I walk in faith that my husband will become saved….soon would be nice….It is in the hand Of Abba Father.

    Just remember that the light and the darkness do not belong together…..also that disobedience to God’s word has very real consequence…..Say a prayer for me upon reading this because the battle has begun once again as I am growing Deeper in The Lord and have chosen to act in faith and do some ministry work once again ……although in a different field….I live for My God and know that He is the God who hears and sees….and is faithful and so very loving….never-the-less I am telling anyone who may need to hear this message …..the pain of this path is difficult ….where I am at in thsi battle I surly would have chosen differently….I may not always feel this way ….but I sure do right now….Love in Our Lord Jesus Christ to you all may God be glorified in our trials and tribulations……Thank you Father for your love and compassion through our rebellious ways…. Blessings in YHWH

    • JustAGuy says:


      Thank you for sharing your insights on this from your valuable perspective. You are certainly blessed, and may the Lord draw your husband to Himself shortly. We all know what force comes over him and we all know the one who can set him free. I trust he will one day see your chaste conduct and stop resisting what he (I suspect) already knows in his heart.

      Blessings and Peace,

  7. Pastor_Tim says:


    Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts on this. It brings another verse to mind which supports what you are saying.

    1Pe 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
    1Pe 3:2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

    There is an implication in the word ‘won’ that the husband is not won. Now the question is, are they won to the Lord, or is it saying won to their wife? Given the context of those who “obey not the word” the answer would be won to the Lord, by being brought into obedience to the word.

    In the mean time I am sure the unbeliever is reaping a blessing through the faith of the believer. Is it eternal life? I cannot say. You make some good points. “For now we see through a glass darkly.”

    The verses you supplied on not believing and damnation do not contradict what I was saying, if the Lord is imputing the faith of the believer to the unbeliever. We all have areas in our lives where we lack faith and yet the faithlessness in those areas does not do away with the faith that saves, even though it dims it or undermines it if not dealt with.

    I can see that this discussion is one that may be one of those areas where 2Timoty 2:23 comes into play, “But foolish and unlearned questions avoid, knowing that they do gender strifes.”

    The practical side of life and what this means as to how I live it in the presence of an unsaved spouse does not change. Regardless of what the Lord imputes, an unbeliever is missing out on a tremendous life in this life if they do not surrender to the Lord. What happens to them in eternity will certainly be seen in the judgement, and I would not want to assume I was saved because my mate is saved and someone posted a theoretical question on a message board! 😉

    Blessings brother,

    Tim Reinagel

  8. 1Co 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

    This is about whether it is alright for a holy child of God to be married to an unbeliever. What Paul is saying is that it is OK. The unbeliever is sanctified (set apart) for marriage to his wife, but it doesn’t mean he is right with God.

    Tim, I am certain that your suggestions, though interesting, really cannot match with the rest of Scripture. “He who believes not shall be damned” (Mark 16:16). “that whosoever BELIEVES in Him should not perish” (John 3:16) and so on. We are not saved by doing good works to Christians but by repentance and faith towards God as a response to the work of God in Christ. Otherwise it is salvation by works alone, without faith.

    Its better to interpret the above verses in the context of the holiness of marriage. That is what they are about.

    • Anonymous says:

      If you had known what these words mean, ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice,’ you would not have condemned the innocent. Matthew 12:7. We should be careful not to take the posture of a pharisee. It is quite possible that God is offering comfort to His people who are united together with unbelievers. It is a horrible thought that the one you love is going to Hell. I tend to think God is merciful and since a believer is united as one with another (believer or not) Gen 2:24, it is hard to imagine that God would separate them in death and for eternity. This idea does not lessen my convictions that all people are responsible for their own salvation. The two ideas can coexist and are not mutually exclusive.
      The point is that it is POSSIBLE that God is simply providing a comfort for those who have lost their unbelieving loved one. He is the God of all comfort 2 Cor 1.

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